Son on Drugs

[Bint e Aisha]

Son on Drugs

 

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I would like your advice.

I have a 33 year old son that’s on drugs. He has been in a few rehabs but just don’t want to come right. He refuses to move out of the house and when we put him out a few times then he comes after a week or 2 and says that his finished with drugs. He is alright for a while then he starts again.

We really don’t know what to do anymore.

 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Respected Sister

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

We are greatly saddened by your plight. Our suggestion is that you allow him back home provided he agrees to the following aspects:

1. Daily he must participate in ta’leem at home for 10 minutes. Read from the book Fazaail e A’amaal of Shaikhul Hadeeth Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya Kandhelwi (rahimahullah).

2. He must first go out for at least 20 days with the Tableegh Jamaat. If you indicate which area you are from we could suggest who he must contact.

3. He must perform his five daily salaah.

4. He must not be out of the house from maghrib till fajr (except to go straight to the Musjid for esha and return with some good company).

5. He must read the book “Kicking the Habit” a few times. It can be downloaded from Here

6. Do not give him any money or any privilege.

May Allah Ta‘ala guide him. 

Answered by: 

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama

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[Bint e Aisha]

Son on Drugs 

Correspondence of Hazrat Moulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahimahullah)

Letter:  
Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Respected Moulana

I have a major problem. I have a young son who is into every kind of vice. He does drugs, smokes, drinks and steals. He does not want to work or study. We have been to many people and they say he has a bad jinn and lots of taweez have to be done on him. Please advise and please remember us in your du‘aas.

Jazakallah

Reply: 

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem

Sister in Islam

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

1. Ta’weez and going to ‘aamils are not solutions to the problem. Sadly, these sins, which your son is caught up in, have become very common amongst our youth. Many other fathers and mothers are also enduring the same grief.

2. One major factor which contributes toward all of these evils, is the television. Generally, parents refuse to acknowledge the harms of television and they do not want to get rid of the television from their homes, but taking out the television will prove to be very favourable to good, positive change, for all.[1]

3. Of course, now we have the internet and social media. All of these give access to a world of freedom, entertainment and sins. So a greater degree of vigilance is required, with all our children.

4. As parents, there is also a need to monitor the company of our children, since company makes or breaks the individual. Try and spend quality time with your son. Show him love, compassion and mercy. Win him over.

A parent’s du‘aa is an accepted du‘aa, so do not be negligent in making du‘aa for your son. Make lots of du‘aa after the five daily salaah. You will see the fruit of your du‘aas at some stage, insha-Allah.

5. Our seniors have recommended that we introduce kitaab reading in our homes, on a regular basis. Try to set aside 10 or 15 minutes for this, every day. This will prove to be greatly beneficial for all family members, insha-Allah. 

6. Encourage him to go to the musjid; to make friends with those who frequent the musjid, attend good programmes, etc. Take him to someone who can counsel him and advise him to give up his evil actions, by explaining the consequences.

Try and get a copy of or download the book, “Kicking the Habit” and let him read it as a prescription.

7. In all your efforts to guide and advise him, be careful not to adopt a harsh, hard-hitting approach, which could then be the cause of him rebelling more, or leaving home. You want to save your son; not lose your son. Build the bridge; don’t burn the bridge.

8. Making du‘aa for you and for him. May Allah Ta‘ala clean him of all vices and make him pious and righteous and a true flagbearer of Islam.

Was salaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Yunus Patel (Moulana)

Note: The kitaab “Seeking the Shade of the ‘Arsh – Guidance for the Youth” was published after Hazrat Moulana Yunus Patel Saheb’s (rahimahullah) demise, and will, insha-Allah, prove a beneficial and encouraging read for the youth – especially, in these times of fitnah.

[1] Do read the article, “The Influence of Television”.

Tablighuddeen