Nikah (Marriage) In Islam

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Nikah (Marriage) In Islam

Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi Rahmatullah Alaihi

 

 

Table of Contents

 

Nikah - Marriage

Persons with Whom Nikah is Haram

The Wali or Legal Guardian

The Question of Compatibility or Kufu

Mahr - Dowry Mahrul Mithl

The Marriages of The Kuffar Equality Among Wives

The Virtues and Rights of Marriage Glossary

 

1. Nikah is a great bounty from Allah Ta'ala. The affairs of this world and the hereafter are put in order through marriage. There is a lot of wisdom and many benefits in marriage. A person saves himself from sinning and his heart is put at ease. He does not have any evil intentions and his thoughts do not begin to wander and stray. The greatest virtue is that there are only benefits and only rewards in this. This is because a husband and wife’s sitting together and engaging in a loving conversation, joking with each other, etc. is better than nafl salat......

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Nikaah in accordance to the Sunnah

 

Q: I am soon to be married, insha-Allah. I want to know how to do the whole wedding in accordance to the Sunnah.

1. What is the sunnat mehr and the ammount in South African Rands?

2. What is the Shar'iee status of having a wedding and calling people?

3. When is the sunnat time for having the walimah? Does khalwah (in referance to when to have the walimah) refer to seclusion only or does one have to have intercourse?

A: The nikaah which earns the most amount of blessings in the sight of Allah Ta’aala is the nikaah which is closest to the sunnah. Hereunder are a few important aspects one should adhere to in order for the nikaah to conform to the sunnah:

• It is sunnah to perform the nikaah in the masjid and it is preferable that the nikaah be performed on the Day of Jumu’a.

 

Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said:

إن أعظم النكاح بركة أيسره مؤنة (شعب الإيمان للبيهقي 5/254)

“The nikaah that earns the most blessing is that nikaah wherein the least expenses are incurred.”

• The nikaah, walimah, etc., should be conducted with simplicity.

 

• The nikaah should be free of show and ostentation.

 

• Any law of Allah Ta’aala should not be violated (e.g. allowing the salaah to become qadha, intermingling of sexes, taking loans on interest, photography, music, etc.).

 

• At the time of exchanging gifts, one should ensure that it is not done for show and the spirit of the sunnah is not compromised.

 

• The nikaah should be kept as simple as possible as it is known that simplicity is the spirit of the sunnah.

 

• It is not compulsory for one to invite many people. If a person invites few people to his home and feeds them with the intention of walimah, the sunnah of walimah will be fulfilled.

 

• The poor should also be invited for the walimah. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) has said:

 

شر الطعام طعام الوليمة يدعى لها الاغنياء و يترك الفقراء ، متفق عليه (مشكوٰة المصابيح ص278)

“The worst food (void of blessings) is the food of that walimah to which the rich are invited and the poor are excluded.”

• It is best and closest to the sunnah that the walimah be conducted at one’s home and not in the halls as it is witnessed that many wrongs take place at hall functions. However, if for some reason one conducts the walimah in a hall one should ensure that no law of Allah Ta’aala is violated.

 

• Emulating the ways of the kuffaar should be abandoned under all circumstances.

 

1. As far as the sunnah mahr is concerned, it should not be an exorbitant amount. It is preferable that Mahr-e-Fatimi be given if one can afford it.

2. The wedding ceremony conducted by the girls’ party is not established from the sunnah. 

3. Walimah is a Mubaarak Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) which takes place after the nikaah is consummated. The sunnah of walimah remains till the third day of the nikaah. The boy’s party will host the walimah entirely. The custom prevalent nowadays that the expenses of the walimah be borne equally by both the boys and girls party opposes the sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and hence should be omitted.

قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم لعبد الرحمن بن عوف رضي الله عنه بارك الله لك أولم ولو بشاة (الترمذي 1/208)

It is reported by Hadhrat Anas (Radiallahu Anhu) that Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said to Abdurrahman ibn Awf (Radiallahu Anhu) after his nikaah, “May Allah Ta’aala give you barakah in your nikaah. Carry out the sunnah of walimah! Even though it may be by slaughtering a sheep (and feeding the people)”.

We make du’a to Allah Ta’aala to give us the tawfeeq to emulate the Mubaarak sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in every facet of our lives. Aameen.

ويندب إعلانه وتقديم خطبة وكونه في مسجد يوم جمعة بعاقد رشيد وشهود عدول  والاستدانة له والنظر إليها قبله وكونها دونه سنا وحسبا وعزا ومالا وفوقه خلقا وأدباوورعا وجمالا (الدر المختار 3/8)

( دعي إلى وليمة وثمة لعب أو غناء قعد وأكل ) لو المنكر في المنزل فلو على المائدة لا ينبغي أن يقعد بل يخرج معرضا لقوله تعالى: " فلا تقعد بعد الذكرى مع القوم الظالمين " فإن قدر على المنع فعل وإلا يقدر ( صبر إن لم يكن ممن يقتدى به فإن كان ) مقتدي ( ولم يقدر على المنع خرج ولم يقعد ) لأن فيه شين الدين والمحكي عن الإمام كان قبل أن يصير مقتدى به ( وإن علم أو لا ) باللعب ( لا يحضر أصلا ) سواء كان ممن يقتدى به أو لا لأن حق الدعوة إنما يلزمه بعد الحضور لا قبله ابن كمال قال العلامة الشامي : قوله ( ابن كمال ) لم أره فيه نعم ذكره في الهداية قال ط وفيه نظر والأوضح ما في التبيين حيث قال لأنه لا يلزمه إجابة الدعوة إذا كا هناك منكر اه قلت لكنه لا يفيد وجه الفرق بين ما قبل الحضور وما بعده وساق بعد هذا في التبيين ما رواه ابن ماجه أن عليا رضي الله تعالى عنه قال صنعت طعاما فدعوته رسول الله فجاء فرأى في البيت تصاوير فرجع اه قلت مفاد الحديث أنه يرجع ولو بعد الحضور وأنه لا تلزم الإجابة مع المنكر أصلا تأمل (رد المحتار 6/347-348)

ووليمة العرس سنة وفيها مثوبة عظيمة وهي إذا بنى الرجل بامرأته ينبغي أن يدعو الجيران والأقرباء والأصدقاء ويذبح لهم ويصنع لهم طعاما وإذا اتخذ ينبغي لهم أن يجيبوا فإن لم يفعلوا أثموا قال عليه السلام من لم يجب الدعوة فقد عصى الله ورسوله فإن كان صائما أجاب ودعا وإن لم يكن صائما أكل ودعا وإن لم يأكل أثم وجفا كذا في خزانة المفتين ولا بأس بأن يدعو يومئذ من الغد وبعد الغد ثم ينقطع العرس والوليمة كذا في الظهيرية (الفتاوى الهندية 3/422)

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)