17 Waysto Keep Your Husband Happy

[ummtaalib]

  1- Beautiful Reception

 

After
returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with
a good greeting.

* Meet him
with a cheerful face.

* Beautify and perfume yourself.

* Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.

* Receive him with loving and yearning sentences.

* Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

2- Beautify
and Soften the Voice

* For your
husband only, it shouldnt be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry
you if you were unmarried).

 

3- Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

 

* Taking good
care of your body and fitness.

* Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.

* Bath regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad
smells.

* Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape.

* Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tattoo.

* Use the types of perfumes, colours, and clothes that the husband likes.

* Change hair
style, perfumes, etc. from time to time.

* However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course,

only act as such in front of mahram men and women.

 

4-
Intercourse

* Hasten for
intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.

* Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning
yourself after intercourse.

* Exchange loving phrases with your husband.

* Leave your
husband to fully satisfy his desire.

* Choose
suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband,

and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel,
weekends, etc.

 

 

5- Satisfaction With What Allah Has Allotted

 

* You
shouldnt be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job.

* You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember

Allah for all that was given to you.

* You should remember that real wealth lays in Iman and piety.

 

6-
Indifference to Worldly Things

 

7- Appreciation

 

* You should
not consider this world as your hope and interest.

* You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.

* Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal),
but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever
Allah gave them to achieve paradise (Jannah).

* Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to
give charity and feed poor and needy people.

* By the saying of the prophet, the majority of people in hell were women
because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.

* The result
of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best
to please you in more ways.

* The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and
will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never

appreciates?

 

 

8- Devotion
and Loyalty

9- Compliance to Him

 

* In
particular in times of calamities in your husband’s body or business, e.g. an
accident or a bankruptcy

* Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

* In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram).

* In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his
support and consultant.

 

10-Pleasing Him If He Is Angry

 

* First off,
try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.

* But if it happens that you can’t, then try to appease him as follows:

1- If you are
mistaken, then apologize.

2- If he is
mistaken then:

– Keep still instead of arguing or

– Yield your right or

– Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.

3- If he was
angry because of external reasons then:

– Keep silent
until his anger goes

– Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him

– Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened, e.g.

1) You should
tell me what happened?

2) I must know what made you so angry.

3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know.

 

11-Guardianship While He is Absent

* Protect
yourself from any prohibited relationships.

* Keep the secrets of the family, particularly bedroom talks and things that
the husband doesn’t like other people to know.

* Take care
of the house and children.

* Take care of his money and properties.

* Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijab.

* Refuse people whom he does not like to come over.

* Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place.

* Be good to his parents and relatives in his absence.

12- Showing Respect for his Family and Friends

 

* You should
welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.

* You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.

* You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his
mother and his wife.

* Show good
hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in,
perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.

 

* Encourage
him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.

* Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them,
support them in calamities, etc..

 

13- Admirable Jealousy

 

* Jealousy is
a sign for wife’s love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits
of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others, disrespecting them, etc..

* You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.

 

14-Patience and Emotional Support

 

* Be patient
when you face poverty and strained circumstances.

* When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband,
your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.

 

* When facing
hardships in Dawah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested, etc.), be patient
and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of paradise.

 

* When he
mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment

 

15- Support in Obedience to Allah, Dawah and Jihad

 

* Cooperate
with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary
worships.

* Encourage him to pray at night.

* Listen and reciting the Quran individually and with your husband.

* Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.

* Remember Allah much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.

* Share in arranging Dawah activities for women and children.

* Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners (adab) for women.

 

* Support
your husband activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing
his pains, etc.

 

* Yielding
some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Dawah.

 

* Encourage
him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in
the preservation of Allah

 

16-Good Housekeeping

 

* Keep it
clean, decorated and well arranged.

* Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom.

* Perfect of food and prepare healthy foods.

 

* Learn all
the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing.

* Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.

17-Preservation of Finances and the Family

 

* Do not
spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are
sure that he agrees on this.

* Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.

* Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their
nutrition, health, education, manners, etc.

Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.

 

With
Compliments~ Darul Fiqh

http://idealwoman.org/2012/17-ways-to-keep-your-husband-happy

[MUSLIM WOMAN]

 

 

waiting  to read  the article :  

17 Ways to Keep Your Wife Happy  

[ummtaalib]

I think we should write it and stipulate all the methods which make us happy sis : )

[MUSLIM WOMAN]

 

 

haha  there  will  be  hundreds  methods  and  sadly   my hubby  won't  read  those :(