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no probs...please ask if you need further clarification here on anywhere else. InshaAllah If I can help I will...if not we can get advise from scholars inshaAllah : )

I think what the replies are saying is that yoga itself is not permissible due to the various reasons mentioned in the replies but simply using the stertching techniques as a means of exercise is allowed AS LONG AS (following from the reply).... personally I don't like copying or using anything even remotely connected with shirk...Alhadulillaahi Rabbil 'aalameen for Islam!!

Wa'alaykumus salaam ww! Gives me an opportunity to bump this topic

Wa'alaykumus salaam ww Maryam Look at post number 6 (InshaAllah it will become clear) however to further clarify it see below: ok see the following which is within the answer you have quoted: Here the women are using just the exercises/stretching techniques In Mufti Desai's reply the questioner is asking of the Yoga itself and so his answer is: inshaAllah this is of help Maryam

The Mahr of Hadhrat Aadam (Alaihis Salaam) Shaikh Abdul Haq Dehlawi (Rahmatullahi Alaihi) writes in “Madaarijun Nubuwah” that when Hadhrat Hawa (Radhiyallahu Anha) was created, Hadhrat Aadam (Alaihis Salaam) wanted to stretch forth his hands towards her. The angels then said, “Be patient until such time that the nikah is performed and you give her the mahr. Hadhrat Aadam (Alaihis Salaam) then inquired, “What is the mahr?” The angels replied, “The recitation of Durood upon Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). (According to another report, the mahr was twenty durood upon Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). (Fazaail Durood) يَا رَبِّ صَلِّ وَ سَلِّم دَائِمًا أَبَدًا عَلَى حَبِيبِكَ خَيرِ الخَلْقِ كُلِّهِمِ

عن أنس بن مالك رضي الله عنه عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم قال ما من عبدين متحابين يستقبل أحدهما صاحبه ويصليان على النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم لم يتفرقا حتى يغفر لهما ذنوبهما ما تقدم منهما وما تأخر رواه أبو يعلى (الترغيب و الترهيب رقم 2586) [1] Hadhrat Anas (Radhiallahu Anhu) reports that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “When two Muslims, who love each another for the sake of Allah Ta’ala, meet and recite durood upon Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), their (minor) sins are forgiven before they separate. Ihyaaud Deen

Mahr (Wedding Dowry) in Islam Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur'an: "And give women their dowries with a good heart..." (Noble Quran Surah 4, Verse 4) Mahr (Dowry) is considered very component of Nikah. Allah has used the word “Faridah” for it. It means something fixed, decided and obligatory. It is obligatory on the husband to pay mahr to his wife unless she expressly by her own will without any pressure forgives him or returns the amount of mahr to him. Mahr belongs to the wife and it is to be given to her only. It is not the property of her parents or her guardian. No one can forgive the husband to pay the Mahr except the wife herself. If a husband dies without paying mahr to his wife, it will be an outstanding debt on him and it must be paid before the distribution of his inheritance among his heirs. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has stated: Whoever marries a woman with a fixed dowry, whether the amount is small or substantial, while in his heart there is no intention to give her the dowry, he has cheated and deceived her. If he then passed away without having paid the dowry, he will meet Allah on the Day of Judgement as a Zaani (adulterer). (Targhib) Mahr is not a bride price. It is a woman’s right and it signifies a husband’s love and appreciation for his wife. In the Quran it is called “Nihlah” which means “a nice gift or present.” Mahr also signifies a husband’s commitment to take care of his wife’s financial needs. According to the Shariah, the mahr amount should be reasonable. It should be given according to the financial status of the husband and according to the time and place. Umar bin Khattaab Radhiyallahu Anhu said: “Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honour and dignity in this world or a sign of piety before Allah, then Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve uqiyah*.” (Ibn Maajah) *An Uqiyah equals to 40 Dirhams (Silver coins). Twelve uqiyahs equal to 480 Dirhams. This amount is commonly termed as Mahr Fatimi, the current Rand equivalent as of today (5 Feb. 2014) is R 11 652.81. Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians 223 Alpine Road, Overport, Durban

as I said to sister Maryam: InshaAllah all go well and Allah ta'ala grant success of both worlds eat well, get enough sleep, put in effort and then rely on Allah ta'ala ...and recite all the du'as with firm faith

Question: I have heard of a function which is called ‘let loose’. In this function there will be a book launch. Only females allowed are allowed .A fashion show will be taking place .The entire objective is for the women to have fun dressing up and leave their hair open etc. Please explain in view of Quran and Hadith if this is allowed and what advice can you give to our young girls with regards to this function. Answer:In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh. Islam is a pure and dynamic religion that provides guidance for all facets of life including modes of worship, business and trade, and our dealings with others whether privately, or publically in social gatherings. Although Shari’ah does not forbid us from having fun and expressing our happiness, it still provides us guidance in expressing such feelings by setting out principles that maintain the standard of Islam. The event in question, accompanied with a fashion show, contains many elements that go against the morals and values Islam attempts to inculcate within us: 1) Kibr and Riyā (pride and vanity): The purpose of a fashion show is to show off one’s glamour by becoming eye candy for the audience.[1] Such an act creates pride in the heart and results in a negative impact on one’s īmān. Consider the following hadīth: عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: لَا يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ مَنْ كَانَ فِي قَلْبِهِ مِثْقَالُ ذَرَّةٍ مِنْ كِبْرٍ The Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “That person will not enter jannah who has even an atom’s weight of pride in his heart.”[2] 2) Loss of Hayā: Allah Ta’ālā has created women with the inherent quality of shame and modesty (i.e. hayā). It is a special quality that signifies the chastity and lofty status of a woman. As a pure religion, Islam also promotes acts of modesty and self respect (i.e. hayā); the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: «إِنَّ لِكُلِّ دِينٍ خُلُقًا، وَإِنَّ خُلُقَ الْإِسْلَامِ الْحَيَاءُ» “Verily in every religion there is morality, the morality of Islam is modesty.”[3] In another hadith, the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) states: «الْحَيَاءُ مِنَ الْإِيمَانِ، وَالْإِيمَانُ فِي الْجَنَّةِ» “Modesty is part of faith, and faith will be in Paradise.”[4] The event in question attempts to “free” women from this quality by “loosening themselves” in front of other women and internally maligning the standard of a Muslim woman through behaving in a “fun” manner. 3) Tashabbuh (imitation): Like any other religion, there are certain values that are unique to Islam itself that make it stand out amongst the rest. It is for this reason the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) forbade us from sacrificing such values for the sake of imitating others (e.g. through fashion shows) under the facade of “fun” and “amusement”. Consider the following hadīth: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «مَنْ تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ» The Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “He who imitates a group of people is from amongst them.”[5] 4) Lahw: “Lahw” can refer to anything that does not reap any apparent benefit.[6] Although the event in question includes many activities of amusement and fun, it lacks the main essence of any true Islamic gathering, the remembrance of Allah Ta’ālā. A gathering devoid of such is deprived of the blessings of Allah the Almighty and the company of the angels. The Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: إِنَّ لِلَّهِ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى مَلَائِكَةً سَيَّارَةً، فُضُلًا يَتَتَبَّعُونَ مَجَالِسَ الذِّكْرِ، فَإِذَا وَجَدُوا مَجْلِسًا فِيهِ ذِكْرٌ قَعَدُوا مَعَهُمْ، وَحَفَّ بَعْضُهُمْ بَعْضًا بِأَجْنِحَتِهِمْ، حَتَّى يَمْلَئُوا مَا بَيْنَهُمْ وَبَيْنَ السَّمَاءِ الدُّنْيَا، فَإِذَا تَفَرَّقُوا عَرَجُوا وَصَعِدُوا إِلَى السَّمَاءِ Allah has mobile (squads) of angels, who have no other work (to attend to but) to follow the assemblies of Dhikr and when they find such assemblies in which there is Dhikr (of Allah) they sit in them and some of them surround the others with their wings till the space between them and the sky of the world is fully covered, and when they disperse (after the assembly of Dhikr is adjourned) they go upward to the heaven.[7] It is our humble advice that the hosts of this event rethink their approach in holding such a gathering and further make an effort to have an event that not only conforms to the ideals and principles of Islam, but also creates an environment that brings about fun and enjoyment while maintaining activities involving the remembrance of Allah Ta’ālā. This includes, but is not limited to recitation of the Quran, a set time for ‘ibādah, lectures[8] about famous Sahabiyyāt, and interactive youth talks that discuss topics relating to the struggles of the young in today’s environment. Insha-Allah, such an effort will not only bring enjoyment for the young, but it will also serve as a tool to boost one’s imān while simultaneously earning the blessings and pleasure of Allah Ta’ālā. And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best Checked and Approved by, Mufti Ebrahim Desai. idealwoman

Why Imitate Them? Ebrahim (Alayhis Salaam) had made it clear to his people who were disbelievers that he is free from them and their ways. After all, the kuffaar don’t imitate us Muslims, so why should we imitate them. Imitating them and leaving our Islamic ways is a sign of suffering from an inferiority complex. When we begin following them then the following things happen: 1. Our values will change 2. Our clothing will change 3. Hayaa and shame will be lost. 4. Eventually we will feel that there is no problem and harm in marrying them. Hence, we need to be totally different from them and they should not expect us to follow them. What we are required to do is to stay within the borders and parameters of deen and not go beyond. Source: Al-Haadi

The Fire Within It is a major cause of suspicions, malice, enmity and hatred. It often leads to gossip, slander, character assassination and even murder. It is the fire within…the fire called JEALOUSY. It was the first sin committed on earth when the son of Hazrath Aadam (AlaihisSalaam), Qabil, became jealous over his brother Habil. It eventually lead him to murder Habil. Therefore, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has severely warned against this malady of the heart which destroys the fabric of society. HOPE HE HAS AN ACCIDENT Hasad (jealousy) occurs when one sees another person bestowed with some bounty and desires that the person should be deprived of it. For instance, one sees someone who has more wealth, beauty, intelligence or any other such bounty and begins to “burn” within his heart over the person who has been blessed. He then wishes that the blessing be snatched away from him in some way. He hopes that the person has an accident, or that someone should rob him of his wealth, etc. Much worse than this is to desire that a person be deprived from any bounty of Deen. For instance a person is pious, or he is blessed with the Qur’an in his heart or the knowledge of Deen, or he has been blessed with making some efforts for Deen. Upon witnessing these blessings upon him one now desires that they should be snatched away from him. This is a grave crime. OBJECTION AGAINST ALLAH TA’ALA To desire that somebody be deprived of the blessings which Allah Ta’ala has bestowed upon him is tantamount to a direct objection against Allah Ta’ala. The jealous person is actually objecting against Allah Ta’ala, that the person who was granted that blessing was not deserving of it, so why was it given to him? It should rather have been given to the objector! The severity of this crime is thus evident. Hence Rasulullah (sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) is reported to have said: “Hasad destroys one’s good deeds just as fire consumes wood.” In another narration it is described as something that “shaves off” one’s good deeds. MISERABLE Hasad does not only destroy one’s Hereafter. The immediate punishment in this world is that the jealous person is constantly ‘burning” from within. He simply cannot see the next person happy, hence he is always miserable. Happiness remains far away from him. Hasad is therefore among the most foolish crimes to commit. One destroys his happiness in this world and his rewards in the hereafter, yet he gains nothing in return. One desires the destruction of another person but in the process only brings destruction to oneself. Having realised that hasad is a serious disease, one should treat this malady with utmost urgency. Among the ways of removing hasad from the heart are the following: - Ponder over the harm you are doing to yourself and the utter foolishness of your action. The only thing that you will achieve is misery. Your evil desire is not going to change anything except to make you burn from within and to destroy your good deeds. - Praise the person you are jealous over in front of others. Do this even though you have to force yourself to do it. - Make dua for the person you are jealous of as much as possible. Ask Allah Ta’ala to protect the person’s bounties for him, increase it and grant him barakah therein. - Make salaam to him often - Occasionally give him some gift. Insha Allah by adopting the above remedies, the terrible evil of jealousy will be cleaned from one’s heart. One will also find happiness in this world and one’s good deeds will not be destroyed. islaaminfo.co.za

Who can stop something when Allah the Almighty allows it ...and who can allow it when He, the Almighty stops something!! Allaahumma lakalhamdu walakash shukr for Imaan!

“The best of companions in the sight of Allah is the one who is the best of them to his companion, and the best of neighbours near Allah is the one who is the best of them to his neighbour.” The supreme importance given to this duty towards neighbours by the Prophet of Islãm (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was not witnessed before in any other system of law. He set up positive rules in the jurisprudence of Islãm regarding treatment towards neighbours. This right has not only been conferred upon neighbours who are Muslims, but also on non-Muslims; thereby extending the rope of co-operation and fellow feeling among neighbours. Allah Ta’ãla declared in the Qur’ãn; “Be good to the parents, near of kin, orphans, the needy, relative neighbours and alien neighbours.” (4:36). Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam’s) treatment towards neighbours was exemplary. He was ever ready to forego his comforts and interests for the good of others. His treatment towards the As’hãbus Suf’fa and companions who closeted themselves in his Masjid by the side was very kind and friendly. Once Sayyidinah Ali (R.A.) requested for something to which he replied; “How can it be that I should give it to you. While the companions of Suf’fa should have their stomach wrapped on account of hunger.” Once the Prophet of Islãm (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “One whose neighbour is not safe from his troubles shall not enter paradise.” (Muslim). Islãm says that no man or woman will get salvation despite his or her piety, till he or she does not treat his or her neighbour well. This is as true to a particular individual as to a nation. The neighbouring nations should live in perfect peace and amity. It is further said that the character of a man is known only from his neighbour. Once Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “The best of companions in the sight of Allah is the one who is the best of them to his companion, and the best of neighbours near Allah is the one who is the best of them to his neighbour.” Once a man asked Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam); “O Messenger of Allah! How can I know when I do good and when I do bad?” Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) replied; “When you hear your neighbours say, you have done good, you have done good. And when you hear them say, you have done bad, you have done bad.” (Ibn Mãjah). Islãm teaches that every man should send food and gifts to his neighbour however insignificant. The neighbour has the right of being invited on festive occasions. Every sort of help should be extended towards a neighbour without any discrimination of caste, creed and religion. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “O Muslim women! No female neighbour must hold in contempt for her neighbour even a hoof of a goat.” (Bukhãri/Muslim). Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “When you cook broth, increase its water and give it to your neighbours.” (Muslim). Once Sayyidinah Ã’isha (R.A.) asked; “O Messenger of Allah! I have two neighbours. To whom among these two should I send some gift?” He replied; “To the one who is nearer to you of the two in respect of door.” (Bukhãri). These Ahãdith apply to both Muslims and non-Muslims. As followers of the supreme teaching of the beloved Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) we need to ask ourselves do we love our neighbour or do we harbour great jealousy and hatred for them. It is fine for the entire world to re-furbish their homes, purchase a new car etc, but not for our neighbours. As soon as we see any good in them the flames of jealousy intensifies within us. One of the prime reason for this is due to the pressure of wanting to keep up with ‘Jones’ scenario. The poor neighbour is now pressurised to also build an unneeded extension to his home or purchase the latest car just as his neighbour has. In doing so one then becomes obliged to take out an un-lawful mortgage, and in doing so violating the pristine laws of his Creator. The riches of one neighbour increases the poverty of the other neighbour. May Allah Ta’ãla grant us all the guidance to understand the beautiful teaching’s of Islãm, and the ability to act upon them. Ameen. AHÃDITH ON NEIGHBOURS ¨ Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “Sayyidinah Jibra’eel so persistently advised me for the fair treatment of the neighbour that I thought he (the neighbour) will be declared as heir of his neighbour.” (Bukhãri/Muslim). ¨ Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “He is not a believer who takes his meals to his fill but his neighbour, by his side, remains hungry.” (Mishkãt). ¨ Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “Whoso desires that Allah and His Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) love him, should speak the truth, return the trust to its owner safe and sound and treat his neighbours well.” (Mishkãt). ¨ Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said; “The first case of the two opposing persons to be presented before Allah on the Day of Judgment will be of two neighbours.” (Mishkãt). ATTARBIYAH ATTARBIYAH ISLÃMIC TARBIYAH ACADEMY 45 Boothroyd Lane, West Town, Dewsbury. WF132RB.

Real Respect If we use the strength, energy and keen intelligence of youth in opposing Shaytān and in pleasing Allāh ta‘ālā, the Giver of youth, then Allāh ta‘ālā will give us honour in this world too. A young person who lives a good life is looked on with respect by the whole community and he feels contentment within. One who does not live such a life, regardless of how cheerful he may look from the outside, will be suffering from a guilty conscience. When he sleeps, he sleeps with guilt on his mind; he knows deep down that he has no real status. A young person may strut around with pride and arrogance, acting big, but in his own eyes he has no respect for himself. In his own eyes he is detestable and useless. What status can a person have when he does not even have self respect? What greater disgrace can there be than when a man no longer has respect for himself? As for the one who dedicates his youth to Allāh ta‘ālā, he is gifted with self-confidence, self-satisfaction, self respect and peace. His heart is always happy because he knows he is trying to please his Lord. He cheers himself by thinking how happy Allāh ta‘ālā must be with him for sacrificing his desires to please Allāh ta‘ālā. He is happy that Allāh ta‘ālā loves him, knowing that it is He who has helped him to avoid sins and do good deeds. He is respected within his entire family and the whole community points him out as a role model for others. And when the time comes for his soul to be taken to the hereafter, an assembly of angels will rush to greet him. They will wrap his soul in a silk cloth, put it on a tray of gold, and take it to Jannah. He will be honoured in this world and honoured in the hereafter. The people of the earth will mourn him and utter words of praise in his remembrance. The good deeds he did for people in secret will then also be revealed. People will inform each other of how well he treated them, how he helped them in their hour of need and how he guided them to the right path. The angels will rejoice upon his arrival and Allāh ta‘ālā will order them to take His beloved servant to Jannah-al-Firdaws, the highest ranking Jannah. (Extracted from ‘The Gift of Youth’ by Shaykh Mawlānā Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullāh)

Allah, The Most Exalted, says: "And We have not sent you (Muhammad) except as a mercy to mankind" (Qur'an Al-Anbiyah 21:107) The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was asked to curse the infidels. He said, “I have not been sent to curse people but as a mercy to all mankind.” (Hadith-Muslim) Note: Indeed the Last and Final Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was a Mercy to All of Humanity. His(pbuh) sublime conduct bears ample testimony to this fact. Being extremely kind-hearted, his eyes brimmed with tears at the slightest sign of inhumanity. His mercy was not confined to humankind but was extended to all of creation. www.eislam.co.za

Sunnats and Aadaab of Drinking – Part 4 1. One should drink in at least three sips. عن أنس رضي الله عنه قال : كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يتنفس في الشراب ثلاثا. متفق عليه . (مشكوة المصابيح رقم 4263) Hadhrat Anas (Radhiallahu Anhu) reports that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) used to drink in three sips. وعن ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : " لا تشربوا واحدا كشرب البعير ولكن اشربوا مثنى وثلاث وسموا إذا أنتم شربتم واحمدوا إذا أنتم رفعتم " . رواه الترمذي (مشكوة المصابيح رقم 4278) Hadhrat ibn Abbaas (Radhiallahu Anhuma) reports that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: “Do not drink in one gulp like a camel, rather drink in two or three sips, and take the name of Allah Ta’ala when you begin drinking and praise Allah Ta’ala when you have completed drinking. 2. One should not drink from the chipped or broken side of the cup. وعن أبي سعيد الخدري رضي الله عنه قال : نهى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم عن الشرب من ثلمة القدح وأن ينفخ في الشراب. رواه أبو داود (مشكوة المصابيح رقم 4280) Hadhrat Abu Saeed Khudri (Radhiallahu Anhu) reports that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) discouraged one from drinking from the chipped or cracked side of the cup. Similarly he discouraged us from blowing into the cup while drinking. 3. One should not blow into the utensil. عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما : أن النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم نهى أن يتنفس في الإناء أو ينفخ فيه (ترمذي رقم 1888) Hadhrat ibn Abbaas (Radhiallahu Anhuma) reports that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) discouraged one from breathing into the utensil or blowing into it (whilst drinking). Ihyaaud Deen

Endeavour to Inculcate the Mubaarak Qualities of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and his Sunnah While addressing a gathering of Ulama, Hazrat Shaikh Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya Kandelwhi (Rahmatullahi Alaihi) mentioned: My beloved friends, you all should endeavour to study the Shamaail of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) (i.e. the blessed character and noble qualities of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and his mubaarak sunnah. As many sunnats one is able to inculcate within one’s life, one should do so. If one is unable to practise on any particular aspect or sunnah of the mubaarak life of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), then the least one should do is that one should love that Sunnah from the bottom of one’s heart and one should feel to oneself that this is the greatest quality and action, and there is nothing better than this. He should feel that it is on account of his own weakness that he is unable to practise upon this Sunnah. Shamaail-e-Tirmidhi.pdf Beautiful Sunnats of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam) to follow Daily!

By Sheima Rafiq a student at Rayyan Institute. Ikhlas means sincerity and, as believers, our actions, interactions and deeds are scrutinised closely – each moment recorded. Our eventual return to Allah is a reality we cannot escape from and the weighing of our deeds and their intentions, good and bad, is an event which we cannot help but worry about. Sincerity matters because all the good we claim to do is of no use if it wasn’t for it. If it wasn’t for sincerity in intentions, then our good is in fact not good at all. While we can attempt to deceive others and perhaps even ourselves, there is no way we can deceive our Creator for He knows our intentions. There is no running from that. Imam Ghazali (may Allah have mercy on him) explains sincerity as “the freeing of one's intentions from all impurities in order to become nearer to Allah. It – sincerity in actions -- is to ensure that the intentions behind all acts of worship and obedience to Allah are exclusively for His pleasure”. Shaykh Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said, “The servitude of the man is divided over the heart, the tongue and the remaining limbs of the body. From among those issues that are incumbent on the heart there are: sincerity, trust, love, patience, penitence, fear [of Allah], hope, firm belief and true intention. The Ummah has agreed that these actions of the heart are incumbent.” Here are five reasons why sincerity matters in everything we do: #1 – Sincerity is a cause for barakah (blessings) Any permissible act initiated to please Allah Most High augmented with sincere intentions will merit His Barakah; be it from the simplest of tasks to the most demanding. Yet certain conditions apply, for example, it is important to acknowledge that sincere intentions are not a means for justifying unlawful actions. #2 – Sincerity allows for Divine Guidance "And Allah increases those who were guided, in guidance, and the enduring good deeds are better to your Lord for reward and better for recourse. (Qur’an 19:76) It is a no-brainer that in order to be guided it is of utmost importance that our deeds are soaked in sincere intentions. Our success lies in following the path of the righteous and among the habit of our pious predecessors was to condition all their actions with sincerity, for without it, they knew the path to Allah was impossible to tread. #3 – Sincerity is demanded by the Qur’an and Sunnah Allah Most High says in the Qur’an: “Unquestionably, for Allah is the pure religion.” (39:3) Purity in one’s religion comes from freeing it from all forms of shirk and all types of ulterior motives, such as ostentation. The Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: “Actions are [judged] according to intentions.” (Bukhari) #4 – Sincerity ensures success both in the dunya (world) and akhirah (hereafter) Indeed, the consequences of our actions have a deep link with our initial intentions. Our intentions carve the path our actions take. Everything we do is affected by what we have intended. Good intentions result in an up-beat outlook coupled with patience, gratitude and appreciation of our peers. #5 – Sincerity is a prerequisite to activism and service in Deen If the intention to serve the Deen is flawed then failure awaits us as our intentions, no matter how great, becomes devoid of any barakah. At times, we will see that arguments may arise or a lack of accomplishment may become apparent at an early stage of our work. Therefore, it is essential to keep in mind that the value of sincerity is indeed immense in our Deen. Remember, a good intention “converts dust in to gold”. Hence, let us strive to ensure our virtuous deeds are conducted solely to please Allah Most High. Let our deeds radiate the aroma of sincerity, upheld with a strong conviction of true faith. I invite you to take a few minutes to reflect upon one action you performed today; perhaps one you execute as an accustomed daily habit. Contemplate upon your reasons for conducting that task… What were your reasons? Your intention? Rayyan Voices Newsletter of Rayyan Institute

Allamah Sakhaawi (Rahmatullahi Alayh) reports from Abu Bakr bin Muhammad (Rahmatullahi Alayh): “While I was once in the presence of Shaikh Abu Bakr bin Mujaahid (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) and it so happened that Shaikh Shibli (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) arrived. Abu Bakr bin Mujaahid (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) rose from his seat, stepped forward, embraced the saint and kissed his forehead in honour. I asked him: “How is it that you bestow such honour on Shaikh Shibli (Rahatullahi Alayhi) when you and all the Ulama of Baghdad are of the opinion that he is a mad man?” Abu Bakr bin Mujaahid (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) replied: “I have only done that which I saw Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) do to him.” He then related the following dream: “I had seen Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in a dream and Shaikh Shibli appeared. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) rose and kissed him on his forehead. When I asked the reason for this great honour, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) replied: “After every salaah, this man used to recite the following verse: لَقَد جاءَكُم رَسولٌ مِن أَنفُسِكُم عَزيزٌ عَلَيهِ ما عَنِتُّم حَريصٌ عَلَيكُم بِالمُؤمِنينَ رَءوفٌ رَحيمٌ ﴿١٢٨﴾ Verily the Messenger has come to you from among yourselves, it greatly causes him pain that you fall into distress and hardship, who is extremely anxious for your welfare, for the believers he is full of compassion and mercy. He thereafter would recite the following durood: صلى الله عليك با محمد صلى الله عليك يا محمد صلى الله عليك يا محمد Abu Bakr (Rahmatullahi Alaihi) continues: “After having seen this dream, I met Shibly (Rahmatullahi Alaihi) and asked him, “What durood do you recite upon Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) after salaah?” The reply he gave was exactly the same as I had seen in my dream” (Fazaail Durood) يَا رَبِّ صَلِّ وَ سَلِّم دَائِمًا أَبَدًا عَلَى حَبِيبِكَ خَيرِ الخَلْقِ كُلِّهِمِ

عن ابن مسعود رضي الله عنه قال إذا صليتم على رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم فأحسنوا الصلاة فإنكم لا تدرون لعل ذلك يعرض عليه قال فقالوا له فعلمنا قال قولوا اللهم اجعل صلواتك ورحمتك وبركاتك على سيد المرسلين وإمام المتقين وخاتم النبيين محمد عبدك ورسولك إمام الخير وقائد الخير ورسول الرحمة اللهم ابعثه مقاما محمودا يغبطه فيه الأولون والآخرون اللهم صل على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما صليت على إبراهيم وعلى آل إبراهيم إنك حميد مجيد اللهم بارك على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما باركت على إبراهيم وعلى آل إبراهيم إنك حميد مجيد رواه ابن ماجه موقوفا بإسناد حسن (الترغيب و الترهيب رقم 2588) Hadhrat Abdullah bin Mas’ood (Radhiallahu Anhu) reports: “When you recite Durood upon Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), then recite Durood in the best of manners (complete devotion, concentration, love and respect), for certainly you do not know perhaps that Durood of yours will be presented before him. The students of Hadhrat Abdullah bin Mas’ood (Radhiallahu Anhu) asked: “Teach us how to recite Durood on Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). Hadhrat Abdullah bin Mas’ood (Radhiallahu Anhu) replied: “Recite the following: أَللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْ صَلَوَاتِكَ وَرَحْمَتَكَ وَبَرَكَاتِكَ عَلَى سَيِّدِ المرسَلِينَ وَإِمَامِ المتَّقِينَ وَخَاتَمِ النَّبِيِّينَ محَمَّدٍ عَبْدِكَ وَرَسُولِكَ إِمَامِ الخَيرِ وَقَائِدِ الخَيرِ وَرَسُولِ الرَّحْمَة اللَّهُمَّ ابْعَثْهُ مَقَامًا مَّحْمُودًا يَغْبِطُهُ فِيهِ الْأَوَّلُونَ وَالْآخِرُون اَللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَى محَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ محَمَّدٍ كَمَا صَلَّيتَ عَلى إبْرَاهِيمَ وَعَلَى آلِ إبرَاهِيمَ إنَّكَ حَمِيدٌ مَجِيد اللَّهُمَّ بَارِك عَلَى محَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ محَمَّدٍ كَمَا بَارَكْتَ عَلى إِبرَاهِيمَ وَعَلَى آلِ إبراهيمَ إنَّكَ حَمِيدٌ مَجِيد O Allah, shower your special blessings and mercies and upon the leader of the Messengers,the Imaam of all the pious servants, and the seal of the Ambiyaa, Hadhrat Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) your servant and messenger, the imaam of all good and virtue and the messenger of mercy. O Allah, elevate him to the highest of positions, and make him worthy of the position of Maqaam Mahmood, in such a way that the former and the latter of the entire creation will all envy him. O Allah, shower Your mercy upon Hadhrat Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and the family of Hadhrat Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), as You showered Your mercy upon Hadhrat Ebrahim (Alaihis Salaam) and the family of Hadhrat Ebrahim (Alaihis Salaam). Indeed You are praiseworthy and most glorious. O Allah, shower Your blessings upon Hadhrat Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and the family of Hadhrat Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), as You showered Your blessings upon Hadhrat Ebrahim (Alaihis Salaam) and the family of Hadhrat Ebrahim (Alaihis Salaam). Indeed You are praiseworthy and most glorious. Ihyaaud Deen

What’s wrong with weed? The message below was received from a concerned university student: “Slmz. How are you Moulana.. Alhumdulillah I have started campus and its going well. It was quite a big adjustment for me but shukr I'm getting there.. It is very shocking to see our muslims are gone off the track on campus.. Many of them smoke weed and what's even more shocking muslim girls are also smoking weed openly.” (END) The message received makes disturbing and worrisome reading. It should serve as a wake-up call to parents, yet the probable reaction would likely be, “That must be someone else’s kid. My child would never do that!” We lie to ourselves because it allows us to remain in our illusion of happiness. As someone aptly pointed out, “Most people would rather deny a hard truth than face it.” Yet no problem was ever solved by the ostrich putting its head in the ground. Weed or cannabis is general considered a recreational or soft drug. Because it’s only a mild narcotic and it does contain medicinal properties, some people have ventured to say that there is nothing wrong with it. They argue it helps the mind to open and makes life easier to cope with. Let us explore this issue in the light of the Quran and Hadith. The first verse revealed regarding intoxicants was, “They ask you regarding wine and gambling. Say, ‘In them is great sin as well as benefit for man. But the sin is greater than the benefit.” (Surah 2, Verse 219) This verse provides a general guideline that an item having benefit does not necessitate it being permissible to use. Items must be weighed in totality. While the verse mentioned previously speaks specifically about wine, the Ahadith of Rasulullah grants further clarity into the issue. Ummu Salamah Radhiyallahu Anha reports “Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam prohibited every intoxicant and narcotic.” (Abu Dawud) Islamic rulings are based on Divine Wisdom. It is not just the mere individual that is to be considered but the benefit of society as a whole has to be considered. There are individuals who drink and gamble recreationally without that causing detriment to their lives, but there are many whose lives and families have been destroyed because of the same. Society as a whole suffers the ill effects of these evils. A vivid example of this is displayed in a recent news article about Yemen titled, “A Nation Chewing Itself to Death” which speaks about the obsession of Yemenites with “qat”, another mild narcotic plant. It reveals statistics of a poor Arab nation of 26 million, where 72 percent of men and a third of all women are reported to be habitual users. By one estimate, 20 million dollars is spent each day on qat, and 80 million work hours lost to its consumption. In Yemen, the day revolves around qat,” says Ali Ayoub, a leather merchant who chews qat for about four hours a day, or longer if there is a wedding or holiday celebration. “By 2pm, you won’t find anyone at work. Everyone leaves early to buy qat.” This obsession has reached such levels that farmers have turned away from traditional crops to the planting of the more lucrative qat with the effect that the price of staple foods has rocketed due to insufficient supply. This in turn has led to widespread malnutrition, yet still many Yemenites spend more on the drug than on food for their hungry families. Sure, there is fun in smoking weed, but there is always a price to pay when Allah’s commands are disobeyed. In the end, the price paid is always more than the enjoyment received. Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians 223 Alpine Road, Overport, Durban

Allah, The Most Exalted, says: “…they prefer others above themselves even though poverty becomes their lot…” (Qur’an -Al-Hashr 59: 9) The Messenger of Allah(peace be upon him) is reported to have said: “He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should honour his guest according to his rights. He was asked: What are his rights ? The Messenger of Allah(peace be upon him) answered: A day and night of generous treatment and hospitality of three days. That which you may offer beyond this will be regarded as charity.” (Hadith-Bukhari and Muslim) Note: Entertaining a guest is an important feature of Islam which signifies the respect and concern of a host towards his guest. It is obligatory upon every Muslim to welcome his guest whether rich or poor with a cheerful countenance and without least expression of unpleasantness. Being hospitable to neighbours and guests can increase societal ties as well as unite an entire community. Most importantly, Allah Ta’ala commands Muslims to be hospitable to neighbours and guests. There is a great virtue in doing so.

Teenage Years: Most Difficult for the Parents "I never asked to be born!" "Stop trying to control my life!" "I hate you!" You thought you were over the hard part---changing diapers and being awakened throughout the night by your crying baby, dealing with an uncontrollable two-year old "monster," and trying to handle a mischievous child, who was always getting into trouble at school. But now comes the really hard part---coping with a rebellious, often rude and obnoxious, teenager. Muslim Parents: Not Immune from Teenage Problems The teenage years have historically been a difficult period for parents in America, with very few exceptions. Struggling to find their own place in the world, teenagers often rebel against the ways of their parents. They want to experiment to find out what is best for them. And, unfortunately, Muslim parents may also face many of the same problems with their teenagers that non-Muslim families face. Muslim children can also be tempted to drink alcohol or take drugs, be physically attracted to someone of the opposite sex in their class, skip school, or get involved in the wrong crowd. No doubt, it will be a traumatic experience for a Muslim family to find out that their son or daughter is taking drugs, secretly going out on dates with the opposite sex, or getting in trouble with the police, but it could happen. And what if they become addicts, contract AIDS by having unmarried sex, or become a mother or father before marriage. Our great dreams for our children could suddenly turn into nightmares. It has happened to other Muslim families. This is, of course, a very frightening thought for most parents. Some will merely say that it won't happen to their Muslim child. But others will take action and look for ways to prevent these problems or to better handle them if they arise. Although no two families have exactly the same situation, there are some general guidelines for dealing with Muslim teenagers that might be useful. We should teach them from an early age about Allah Ta’aala , the Prophets, the Sahaba, and the great heroes of Islam. If we develop in them a love for Islam and provide them with righteous examples for their heroes, they will be much less likely to go astray. A person wants to be like his heroes. If he admires Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam, Abu Bakr Radhiyallahu Anhu, and Ali Radhiyallahu Anhu, he will try to follow their example. If he admires a rock star or a gang leader, he will want to be like them. If we inspire our children with good examples, when they are tempted to do wrong, they will, InshaAllah, remember these examples and remain steadfast. Although I was raised as a Christian and didn't embrace Islam until I was in my 20s, I was greatly influenced by the Biblical stories of Prophets like Nuh, Ibrahim, Musa, and Isa (Peace be upon them all). Although the Biblical stories were not in their pure form, they still inculcated in me a love and respect for the way of the Prophets. Although I fell into many of the temptations of youth, Alhamdulillah, I always felt something within me holding me back from going too far. While many of my friends went headlong into a highly destructive way of life, I believe that my knowledge of, and affection for, the Prophets helped me to return to a better path. We must be very careful about our children's friends During the teenage years, children often care more about what their friends say than what their parents or elders say. According to a hadith, "Man is upon the path of his intimate friend; so let each look to whom he takes as a friend." If our children have good, sincere, and righteous friends, the chances are good that our children will be like them. If, on the other hand, our children hang around with children who take drugs and get into trouble, our children will likely take drugs and get into trouble. Therefore, it is essential from an early age that we try to get our children involved with good children. One way to encourage this is by regularly taking them to the mosque (be careful of not creating disturbance) or by sending them to an Islamic school where they will have the opportunity to meet and interact with Muslim children. We should be worried though if our children start hanging around with bad-mannered and disrespectful children. We should encourage our children to participate in wholesome religious, social, and sports activities Bored teenagers are more likely to look for fun and excitement in the wrong place. "Idle hands are the devil's (shaytan's) workshop," someone once said. If teenagers' lives are full of good and exciting things to do, they will not have the time or the desire to get involved in bad things. We should try to channel their teenage zeal into constructive avenues Sometimes, teenagers begin to criticize the way of life of their parents and society, and parents are often angered by this. However, we must keep in mind that sometimes they may be right. Our lives and our society are not perfect, and teenagers may have fresh insight into how to improve them. In Living With Teenagers: A Guide for Muslim Parents, Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood writes: "Teenagers are idealists---they want to change the world, and make it a better place. These are not bad ideals, and it is a great pity that adults have forgotten their own ideals in the rat-race of daily life. You, the parent, may have ended up as just a hard-working nonentity in some quiet niche in life; a teenager who is a real idealist may end up as a famous person, a reformer, a politician, an aid-worker---who knows. The future lies there before them. It is therefore a foolish parent who tries to ridicule and trample on that young idealism. If it is consistent with Islam, it should be fervently encouraged, and not set at nought." If a teenager is idealistic and wants to improve the world, we should encourage him and help him. If he if full of zeal but lacks the proper direction, we should help him to use that zeal constructively. If we get teenagers involved in helping those in need and in working for important causes, their zeal could make a tremendous impact. We should sometimes admit that we are wrong Parents make mistakes. If we admit to our children that we are wrong at times, they will not always feel that they have to rebel against us and prove that we are wrong. We should listen to our children Sometimes, children act out in order to get our attention. If we give them our attention freely, they will not have to seek it in destructive ways. Also, by listening to our children, there is a greater chance that they will confide in us and ask us questions, rather than seeking answers from negative sources. We should do what we say Teenagers hate hypocrisy, and many of them seem to have a built-in radar for detecting it. If we want them to listen to us and take our advice, they must trust us. If we tell them not to drink, but drink ourselves, they will not respect us. The teenage years are usually difficult, and parents need to prepare for them before they arrive. If parents have built a strong, trusting, and loving relationship with their children before the teenage years, their children will be less likely to go astray. It is very difficult to see one's child going in the wrong direction and not know how to stop him from destroying himself. But if we work hard to instil in them the right values early and try to help them develop a wholesome lifestyle without being overbearing, perhaps we can prevent such a tragedy from ever occurring. Islaaminfo

Allah, The Most Exalted, says: “By no means shall you attain the reality of true piety and righteousness, unless you spend (in Allah's cause) that which you love “ (Quran-Ale-'Imran 3: 92) Jabir ibn 'Abdullah Radiyallahu 'anhuma narrates: “Whenever Rasullullah Sallaliahu 'alaihi wasallam was asked for anything, he never said 'No'.” (Hadith-Muslim) Note: It means that The Messenger of Allah (Sallaliahu 'alaihi wasallam) never used the plain word 'no' before anyone who asked for something. If he had something with him, he would give it then and there; if not, he would either promise him, or remain quiet, or excuse himself with some suitable words, or say words of supplication.

Practical Tips for Parenting Children By Dr. Aisha Hamdan Parents of young children (preschool age) should have few expectations in terms of behavior and acquisition of knowledge due to the cognitive limitations at this age. This does not mean that children should be allowed to run about and do as they please; they still require guidelines and boundaries. What it does mean is that care should be taken regarding the methods that are used to raise children and the values that are instilled from the very beginning. It is interesting to note that the Arabic term tarbiyyah, which is often used to mean teaching or training, generally refers to growth, increase, nourishment, and cultivation. This relates to the physical, intellectual, emotional, psychological, and spiritual aspects of an individual. When thinking of growth and cultivation this implies that something has already been planted or is already present (natural Fitrah, disposition). Tarbiyyah then refers to the various methods that are used to watch over and attend to a child until he or she becomes prepared to take responsibility and behave in complete submission to and worship of Allaah, subhanahu wa ta'aala. The following suggestions are techniques that may be used for tarbiyyah for early-childhood. Play, Play, Play Play should be the primary emphasis during this time in a child's life since this is the means through which they gain an understanding of the world around them. Pretend or imaginative play is the most common type of play during this stage and this directly impacts cognitive, social, and psychological development. Children will often mimic or imitate the behavior of adults or other children around them in their play, which is their way of preparing for their particular roles in life. Girls will most often imitate their mother, and boys will follow in the footsteps of their father. You will see girls playing with dolls, dressing and feeding them and boys in more rough-and-tumble physical types of play. These gender roles develop at an early age and are a natural part of Allaah's plan for the differentiation of responsibilities for men and women. These and other types of play should be encouraged and fostered in young children. Prevention The saying "Prevention is the best medicine" is true not only in the medical field, but also within psychology. There are many steps that parents can take to prevent misbehavior and avoid the disruption that this can cause within the family. First of all, children need predictability, structure, and guidelines because this gives them a sense of security and a feeling that there is order in the world. When this is present they are less likely to feel anxious or stressed which, in turn, will decrease the likelihood of inappropriate behavior. Children will sometimes act chaotic if they are in a chaotic environment. Secondly, probably the most common reason for misbehavior is to gain attention from a parent or other adults. A defining feature of being human is the need for social contact, approval, and attention that is already present at birth. When parents fulfill this need adequately, a child will feel content and be more likely to engage in solitary play. If a child is not able to obtain attention through positive behavior, he or she may utilize negative behavior for this purpose. Parents can fulfill this need by spending quality time with their child (e.g., talking, playing, reading, enjoying nature, and much more). Quality is often more important than quantity. Rewarding Positive Behavior The concept of rewards and punishments is an integral part of Islamic 'Aqeedah as there are natural consequences for each of our actions. This same wisdom can be applied to the area of parenting. The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said that Allaah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "Allaah has written down the good deeds and the bad ones. Then He explained it (by saying that) he who has intended a good deed and has not done it, Allaah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed; but if he has intended it and has done it, Allaah writes it down with Himself as from ten good deeds to seven hundred times, or many times over. But if he has intended a bad deed and has not done it, Allaah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed, but if he has intended it and has done it, Allaah writes it down as one bad deed." (al-Bukhaaree and Muslim). Allaah's mercy can be seen in this Hadith Qudsi and this should be reflected in a parent's tarbiyyah aswell. Rewards are effective in not only increasing the occurrence of positive behavior, but also in decreasing negative behavior and increasing a child's self-esteem. The most effective rewards for children are those that are the easiest to give: praise, encouragement, hugs, thanks, etc. Ignoring Misbehavior Many of the inappropriate behaviors of young children can simply be ignored or disregarded. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, is our best example in this regard. Anas ibn Maalik (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, had the best disposition among people. One day he sent me on an errand and I said, 'By Allaah, I will not go,' but it was in my mind that I would do as the Messenger of Allaah had ordered me. I went until I came upon children playing in the street. Then the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, arrived and he caught me by the back of my neck from behind. As I looked at him, I found him smiling, and he said, 'Unays (Anas' nickname), did you go where I asked you to go?' I said, 'O Messenger of Allaah, yes, I am going.'" Anas said further, "I served him for nine years, but I do not know that he ever said to me about anything I did, why I did that, or about anything I had neglected, why I had not done that." (Saheeh Muslim). We may want to compare this to how we react to or interact with our own children. For young children, in particular, it is really counterproductive to berate, question, and reprimand when they really have little understanding as to why they acted in a certain way. Simply ignoring the behavior may be the most appropriate response. Another related technique is to redirect the child to something else in the environment to draw attention away from the undesirable. It is important to realize that within these general guidelines there are about as many ways to parent as there are parents. Parents need to take into consideration the unique personalities, dispositions, and gifts of each child when deciding upon a particular approach. What may work with one child may not necessarily be effective with another. It is also imperative to remember that our children are one of the greatest tests that we have from Allaah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, and we need to continually ask Him for assistance and guidance for ourselves and our children. This is the most effective and powerful tool for tarbiyyah. Allah says, {When My servants ask you (Muhammad) concerning Me, I am indeed near. I respond to the prayer of every suppliant when he calls on Me. Let them also, with a will, listen to My call and believe in Me, that they may walk in the right way.} (al-Qur'aan, [2]:186) Islaaminfo