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after a lot of research we have compiled as much information as we could on domestic abuse. We would appreciate feedback and /or advise / information we may have overlooked. We request readers to make du'a for acceptance of this effort and that it becomes a means of help for both, the victims and the perpetrators and where violence and fear are removed, replaced by love and peace.

Story of Husband Abuse ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Stories Domestic Violence does exist in the Muslim Community Umm Junaid’s Story Factual Stories Karen & Bruce McAndless-Davis tell their story in their own words One Man’s Story of Being an Abuser ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Resources Nour - Domestic Violence - Booklet.pdf Contents: What is domestic abuse? Statistics What are the warning signs of domestic abuse? Causes and detrimental affects of domestic abuse? Can an abuser change? Is domestic violence exclusive to women only? Why is the focus mainly on women? Do Muslim women have the right to ask for a divorce? Mufti Hussain Kamani on Anger first episode (uploaded December 29, 2014) More episodes HERE Islamic Solution for Domestic Violence Newcastle Central Mosque Domestic Violence an Islamic View | Q&A with Shaykh Suliman Ghani Take Responsibility By Hadhrat Moulana Abdul Hamid Is`haq Saheb (Daamat Barakaatuhum) Once a person acknowledges there is a problem, then that is half the battle won and half way to solving the problem...... ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Towards Ending Violence in our Communities Towards Ending Violence in our Communities Be aware of the teachings of the Qur'an and Sunnah regarding any form of family abuse Let there be zero tolerance for abuse which means SPEAK OUT when witnessed! Education/training regarding domestic violence - at the level of both the individuals of the communities and the Imams/leaders of the community Financial support for Muslim shelters for women Families not turning a blind eye - lines of communication open and providing help and support for both the victim and the perpetrator Extended families to stop covering up abuse, violence, and incest in the name of "preserving the family honor." Avoid falling for the usual myths surrounding domestic violence - blaming victims etc. ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Shariah Councils & Other Avenues of Help Available in Various Countries A Shari'ah Council is a committee of a few religious people that consists of at least one scholar of Islamic law in the absence of an Islamic Court (as in western countries). It provides legal rulings and advice to Muslims in accordance with Islamic Shari'ah based on the four Sunni schools of thought. Matters referred to the Council are deliberated by the members who thereafter deliver their verdict. A variety of disputes as well as family, marriage and divorce issues faced by the Muslim community are resolved. Shari'ah councils are not allowed to interfere in child access matters. In the case of divorce, where possible, councils mediate and try to save marriages. A Woman can seek a Dissolution of Marriage for a Valid Reason through a Shari'ah Council: General Procedure 1. When a woman approaches a Sharia council to obtain a divorce she is asked to complete an application form, provide an acceptable form of ID, together with a copy of her nikah contract. A fee is usually charged. 2. Meeting/Discussion on marriage breakdown 3. The Sharia council will send the husband up to three letters, requesting an immediate response. If the husband replies to the Sharia council's letter, a joint reconciliation meeting between the parties will be arranged, providing both parties agree. In the event that the respondent does not reply to any of the Sharia council's letters or the joint reconciliation meeting is unsuccessful, the next stage involves the parties presenting their case before the panel of arbitrators. 4. On the basis of the case presented to them, the arbitrators will decide whether the petitioner should be granted a Sharia divorce. Once the divorce is finalised the petitioner and respondent are issued with an Islamic divorce certificate. Shari'ah Councils: UK Dewsbury Darul Uloom London Fiqh Council Birmingham Marriage Counseling Rahmat-e-Alam Foundation 7045 N. Western Avenue, Chicago, IL 60645 Telephone: (773)764-8274 Fax: (773)764-8497. Help & Advice with Islamic ethos Nour Peaceful Families MentalHealth4Muslim - Mental Health Directory ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

WITNESSES Ponder on the Following Hadith Anas reported “The Messenger of Allaah said: 'Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is oppressed.' A man asked: 'O Messenger of Allaah! I (know how to) help him when he is oppressed, but how can I help him when he is an oppressor?' He said: 'You can restrain him from committing oppression. That will be your help to him.'” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim] In a Hadith Qudsi, Allah Almighty says: “I shall take revenge on the oppressor in this life and the next. I shall take revenge on someone who saw a person being oppressed and was able to help him but did not help him.” (Reported by Tabarani) How To Become A Means of Help To help the victim, we must help the abuser What to Say to a Friend Who is Abusive Responding to an Abuser How do I stop violence against women and children? How can I help a Victim? ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

PERPETRATORS - What To Do To Change It is important to face up to how your behaviour affects your partner and your children. The more you can understand what your behaviour is like for your partner, the harder it will be to behave badly towards your partner in future. Help IS available.... ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

PERPETRATORS - Stop & Think! 'Sometimes when we argue I shout at her. She is scared of me' 'I slapped her once and I promised myself it would never happen - but it did...' 'I get angry with her and I totally lose it...' Do you recognise yourself in any of this? Do you ever wonder at the aftermath of your actions? Are you concerned that your behaviour towards your partner is costing you your relationship? Are you worried your children are witnessing too many arguments and what effects your behaviour will have on them? Waiting for Father to die... Dear Daddy... Reflect on the following... Narrated Abu Ma'bad, that the Prophet said, “… and be afraid of the supplication of an oppressed person because there is no screen between his invocation and Allah.” Sahih Bukhari: Volume 2, Book 24, Number 573. Abu Dharr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, said, “O my servants, I have forbidden oppression for myself and I have made it forbidden among you, so do not oppress one another.....(part of Hadith Qudsi) Jabir Ibn `Abdullah, may Allah be pleased with him, quoted the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, as saying: “Be on your guard against committing oppression, for oppression is a darkness on the Day of Resurrection...” ( Reported by Muslim) In a Hadith Qudsi, Allah Almighty says: “I shall take revenge on the oppressor in this life and the next. I shall take revenge on someone who saw a person being oppressed and was able to help him but did not help him.” (Reported by Tabarani) The Prophet of Allaah said: "There are three persons whose supplications are never rejected: The just leader, the fasting person when he breaks his fast, and the oppressed when he supplicates and whose supplication is raised above the clouds and the gates of heaven are opened for it, and (to whom) Allaah will say: 'By My Glory! I shall assist you, even if it is after a while.'" [At-Tirmithi] Abu Hurayrah reported: “The Messenger of Allaah said: "Do you know who is the bankrupt one?'' The people said: 'The bankrupt among us is the one who has neither money nor property.' He said: “The real bankrupt one of my nation would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection having (performed) prayers, (observed) fasting and (spent in) charity, (but he will find himself bankrupt on that Day due to depleting these good deeds) because he despised others, uttered slanderous terms against others, unlawfully devoured the wealth of others, shed the blood of others, and beat others. Therefore his good deeds would be credited to the account of those (who suffered at his hand). If his good deeds are exhausted, their sins (i.e., those he oppressed) will be entered in his account and he will be thrown into the (Hell) Fire.” [Muslim] Say: O My slaves who have been prodigal to their own hurt! Despair not of the mercy of Allah, Who forgiveth all sins. Lo! He is the Forgiving, the Merciful. [Qur'an39:53] O ye who believe! Turn unto Allah in sincere repentance! It may be that your Lord will remit from you your evil deeds and bring you into Gardens underneath which rivers flow, on the day when Allah will not abase the Prophet and those who believe with him. Their light will run before them and on their right hands; they will say: Our Lord! Perfect our light for us, and forgive us! Lo! Thou art Able to do all things. [Qur'an 66:8] ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

VICTIMS You are not alone! You do not have to suffer in silence! Help is available! REFER TO BENEFICIAL ADVICE IN THIS POST ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Beneficial Advice from Scholars to Questions on Domestic Abuse FOR THE VICTIM: Some Important Points to Consider for a Possible Solution How Does a Child Deal With Parents Who Fight Each Other? ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Scholars' Condemnation of Domestic Abuse ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Clear Instructions in the Qur'an in case of Conflict Contrary to the misconception that the Qur'an encourages "wife beating", clear instructions have been mentioned in verse 34 of Suratun Nisaa on the steps to be taken by the husband in a conflict where the the wife is rebellious and at fault. As for the "beating", ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

The Islamic Solution Kind treatment towards others is a sign of piety While domestic violence exists in both Muslim and non-Muslim societies, the position of Islam on the kind treatment of women is very clear as mentioned in the Noble Qur’an and exemplified through the life and character of Nabi Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). Allah says in the Noble Qur’an: إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ “The nobler among you in the sight of Allah is the more righteous among you.” (49:13) Abu Hurayrah (radhiyallahu anhu) stated: Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character. The best of you are those who are the best to their women.” (Tirmidhi) In can be understood from these narrations that a husband’s treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of his faith. The character of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) exemplified how one should be good to his wife. He should smile at her, not hurt her emotionally or physically, remove anything that will harm her, treat her gently and be patient with her. He should communicate effectively with her, involve her in decision making and support her in times of difficultly. Allah instructs men to be kind to their wives and to treat them well to the best of their ability. A devout Muslim should always remember that bring joy to one’s spouse is part of faith and earns the pleasure of Allah, whilst dealing with her unjustly will earn the anger of Allah. Allah says in the Noble Qur’an: وَ عَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُواْ شَيْئًا وَ يَجْعَلَ اللّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا “Live with them in kindness; even if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike something in which Allah has placed much good.” (4:19) Abu Hurayrah (radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes something in her character, he should be pleased with some other or another trait of hers.” (Muslim) For any relationship to prosper, each party should focus on the positive character traits of the other. Being over-concerned with negative character traits and weakness engenders hatred, discord and even violence at times. A positive attitude is essential. For example, a husband may appreciate the way his wife arranges his clean laundry, but the underlying character trait may be that she is thoughtful. Following this advice should help the husband focus and be more aware of his wife’s good attributes rather than the negatives. A companion once asked Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), “What is the right of a wife over her husband?” He said, “That you feed her when you eat and clothe her when you clothe yourself and do not strike her face. Do not malign her and do not keep apart from her, except in the house.” (Abu Dawood) Conflict in marriage is unavoidable at times and, unless one is conscious of the Allah, it can lead to a lot of anger. Although anger is one of the most difficult emotions to manage, the first step towards controlling it can be learning how to forgive those who hurt us. Under no circumstance, even when he is angry or somehow feels justified, is a husband allowed to humiliate her by using hurtful words or cause her any injury. Children are the weak and vulnerable segment of society. They are in need of not only physical nurturing, but emotional as well as spiritual nourishment. The advice of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) is clear in providing guidelines regarding to the kindness and affection they deserve to be shown. Hereunder are a few examples: * Abu Shurayh Khuwaylid ibn ‘Amr al-Khuza‘i (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “O Allah! I consider it a wrong action that the rights of two weak ones be violated: orphans and women.” (Nasa‘i) * The grandfather of ‘Amr ibn Shu‘ayb (radhiyallahu anhu) said: Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “'Anyone who does not show mercy to our young people nor honour our old people is not one of us.” (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi) * Abu Hurayrah (radhiyallahu anhu) said, “Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) kissed al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali (radhiyallahu anhu). Al-Aqra’ ibn Habis (radhiyallahu anhu) said, “I have ten children and I have not kissed any of them.” Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “Someone who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.” (Bukhari and Muslim) * Abu Hurayrah (radhiyallahu anhu) relates that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “He who works hard (to fulfil the needs) of widows and the indigent is like a warrior in the Path of Allah.” The narrator thought that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) also said, “and he is like the person who stands in prayer without tiring, and like one fasts and does not break his fast.” (Bukhari and Muslim) * Anas (radhiyallahu anhu) relates that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “One who brings two girls from their childhood until their maturity will appear on the Day of Resurrection in close proximity to me like the two fingers of a hand,” and Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) joined his two fingers.” (Muslim) * Abu Darda (radhiyallahu anhu) relates that he heard Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) saying, “Look for my pleasure among the weak ones, for you are assisted (against your enemies) and provided for with sustenance on account of the weak ones among you.” (Abu Dawud) How do I stop violence against women and children? 1. Decide today NOT to look away, NOT to be a bystander and NOT to be silent. 2. If you are emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive to your partner and/or to your children, seek urgent help. 3. Provide support to women and children who you suspect are being abused. 4. If you witness violence and abuse, report it to the nearest police station as soon as possible. 5. Try to understand how your own attitudes and actions might perpetuate abuse against women or children. 6. Learn about the services in your community that provide assistance to women and children who experience violence and abuse. 7. If a relative, neighbour, friend or colleague is abusive to his wife and children, try to talk to him about it and urge him to seek help. 8. If a woman has been raped, help her to access health services quickly and to test for HIV. Conclusion The statistics on domestic violence are alarming. The problem exists in both Muslim and non-Muslim societies. The worship of Allah, which Muslims believe is the sole reason for their existence, is an all-encompassing concept that applies equally to one’s relationship with Allah as well as with His creation. It really begs a question of the humanity and consciousness for a person to stoop so low to make the target of abuse the young and sometimes weak – those who are the flowers of our society, the joy of the heart and embodiment of affection. In Islam, a person cannot perfect his/her relationship with Allah, unless they perfect their relationship with others. The kind treatment of others, including one’s spouse, can therefore not be ignored as an obligatory act of worship and a sign of piety. Islam teaches the individual to constantly consider which deeds and behaviours will be pleasing to Allah and to interact with others in way that will be pleasing to Him. It is through attaining a higher level of Allah-consciousness that Islamic principles can contribute to the elevation of society. As a believer sincerely contemplates on how his deeds will be viewed by Allah, he learns to improve his conduct with others, including his spouse. Prepared by: Jamiatul Ulama South Africa (Source) ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Islamic Position and Advice on Verbal Abuse in Marriage Sticks and Stones May Break my Bones but Words will never Hurt Me…. “My husband thinks I am stupid. He thinks I can never learn Arabic because I don’t have the brains to.” A sister said while she was seeking advice about her marital discords. She has been married for more than 10 years and has been verbally abused throughout her marital life. When I first met her, she appeared very unconfident and insecure. I was not sure if she had always been like that or if the marital verbal abuse had turned her into a self-doubting, vulnerable person. According to her, her husband puts her down and calls her all sorts of names even in front of the children. He constantly undermines her abilities and compares her with other “accomplished” women. He is very judgmental and I realized that she has no more self-esteem left in her. She described her husband as someone who loves to criticize her, calls her all kinds of degrading names, even in the presence of their children. He undermines her abilities and compares her with other“accomplished” women. It seems like that he had been very judgmental throughout their marital life and perhaps that is the reason why she has no more self-esteem left in her. Unfortunately, this is not the case with just one family, rather verbal abuse in marital relationships has been a major problem in the Muslim communities. Perhaps it is phrases like, ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me,’ that is not only inherently wrong but has encouraged verbal abuse and underestimated its evil affects on the abused. The truth of the matter is that verbal abuse hurt as badly if not more than the physical abuse. Confusion about Verbal Abuse vs. Physical Abuse: Those men and women who have not been physically abused by their wives and husbands but are verbally abused on a daily basis remain confused whether or not they are in a damaging relationship. Unlike physical abuse, verbal abuse is difficult to identify. Once a person has been hit, it is a physical abuse. There is no need to be confused because the bruises are visible. On the other hand, verbal abuse is more dangerous because there is no “apparent” damage. Yet, it causes internal destruction, leaves invisible scars, wounded spirit and low self-esteem. Verbal abuse can be done by either spouse. In some cases, the perpetrator is the wife who not only verbally abuses her husband but drags his whole family along the way. Islam recognizes the evil of verbal abuse and perhaps that’s why there is so much emphasis on guarding one’s tongue and keeping others secured from its invisible harm. The Messenger of Allāh, ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said, “A true believer is not involved in taunting, or frequently cursing (others) or in indecency or abusing.”’ (al-Tirmidhi) If this is the right of a regular Muslim, then how much more so a wife or husband is entitled to be safe from verbal abuse and taunting. In another narration, the Prophet of Allāh said: “…Cursing a believer is like murdering him.” (Al-Bukhāri and Muslim) SubḥānAllāh, how true are the words of the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam who thoroughly acknowledge that, in fact, harsh tongue and cursing is as painful and harmful as murdering someone. Hence, those husbands who are duped into thinking that they are free from being abusive because they have never raised their hands on their wives, yet, frequently curse or use abusive/foul language should take heed in the words of the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam. And so should the wives who have been using harsh tongue against their husbands. Break the Cycle: If you are in a verbally abusive relationship, then change your situation. Remember YOU have to break the pattern. The first step is to acknowledge your spouse’s verbal abuse. Ask yourself the following questions: ●Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner? ●Do you feel threatened, humiliated, helpless or depressed? ●Do you feel as though you cannot do anything right? ●Does your spouse belittle you? ●Does your partner have complete control over your bank accounts? ●Does your spouse ignore or disregard your achievements? ●Does your partner blame you for all of your marriage problems? Oppression must not be encouraged whether physical or verbal. Find the courage to change your situation. ●Communicate with your spouse. You should not be intimidated to talk to your spouse. ●Set Limits: be specific what you can tolerate and what you cannot. ●Seek help: your spouse must not have any problem should you get a third party involved to seek help ●See a therapist: be careful who you chose for therapy ●See a Religious Counselor: If you speak with a shaykh, make sure he has enough time to listen to your problem thoroughly. Do not catch the shaykh during the prayer breaks for 10-15 minutes. Make an appointment. Make sure the shaykh spends enough time to listen to your complain and your spouse’s and give step by step advice to both of you. Make a follow up appointment to ensure the benefits of his advice. A “Henpecked” Husband In some cultures, eastern and western, a kind and affectionate husband is considered “henpecked” by family and friends. Consequently, to prove otherwise husbands may resort to verbal harshness in public or even in private. Let them be reminded, that in the eyes of Allāh ‘azzawajal, the Ultimate Judge, their strength as husbands is not shown in how much verbally they can abuse their wives, rather: “The strong man is not one who wrestles well but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage.” And the excellence of a man has been described in his good manners and in his control over his tongue. And the excellence of a man has been described in his good manners and in his control over his tongue. Abu Musa Al-Ash`ari (ra) reported: I asked the Messenger of Allāh, ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam: “Who is the most excellent among the Muslims?” He said, “One from whose tongue and hands the other Muslims are secure.” (Al-Bukhāri and Muslim) This right is exceedingly due upon the wives. If a wife is not secured form her husband’s tongue then it merely shows the weakness, cowardliness and lowliness of a man’s character not his strength Woman’s Harsh Tongue: Sisters remember the story of the two women, one prayed and fasted and performed extra acts of worship yet she was known to be very harsh with her tongue towards others. The other women performed her obligatory acts of worship but she was very polite to towards others and didn’t hurt anyone with her tongue. The first one was from the women of hellfire and the second was from the people of Jannah. If this is the case in dealing with others, just imagine what will happen if a wife, consistently, uses harsh tongue towards her husband, who has most rights over her politeness, respect and kind treatment. وقولوا قولاً سديداً Allāh ‘azzawajal says (which means): O you who have believed, fear Allāh and speak words of appropriate justice قولا سديدا . He will [then] amend for you your deeds and forgive you your sins… (Sūrat’l-Aḥzāb:71) In this verse قولا سديدا has a very profound meaning. It doesn’t merely mean just speech rather these are the words through which a person connects with the world around him/her. A spouse is the one a person most frequently interacts with hence the one most entitled to قولا سديدا . It doesn’t merely mean just speech rather these are the words through which a person connects with the world around him/her. A spouse is the one a person most frequently interacts with hence the one most entitled to قولا سديدا. These words (everyday speech) are from the characteristics that separate a person from the other creatures and these words are the means by which a person makes himself/herself either from the people of Hell or people of Jannah.[ii] Lastly, those brothers and sisters who are in emotionally abusive relationship must realize that verbal abuse is often worse than physical abuse. Words hurt and can be more harmful than physical pain. Also, patience through verbal abuse (though will be rewarded by Allāh’azzawajal inshā’Allāh) can and will have damaging effects on the children. Not only at the time when they are growing up but on how it shapes their personality and what type of spouses would they turn out to be in future. Mostly, sons will follow their father’s footsteps and daughters will follow their mother’s. Hence, be cautious of what you are putting your children through and take a stand for yourself and for your children. The Jamiat ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

What does Islam say regarding Domestic Abuse? Does it Propagate Mutual Love and Kindness in a Marriage or Violence? On the occasion of Hajjatul-Wida (The Farewell Hajj) The Prophet among other advices said with regard to women; "0 People! fear Allah with regard to your wives. You have taken them into your possession with the permission of Allah." "A believer must not hate a believing woman (i.e., his wife); if he dislikes one of her traits he will be pleased with another." (Muslim) NO to Domestic Violence in Islam | Mufti Hussain Kamani | The Prophet said: "Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well." - Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 628 | Narrated by Abu Hurayrah Sadly, the curse of domestic violence plagues Muslim and Non-Muslim communities all over the globe. In this segment, Mufti Hussain Kamani reminds the listener as to why any form of domestic violence (Physical, emotional or Mental abuse) is forbidden in prohibited in Islam. Thousands of women are killed each year all over the world including the US and sadly for far too long this issue has been pushed under the rugs. This practice goes against the Sunnah of Prophet as he never abused his wives and instructed his companions to be among those who stand up against injustice and oppression. It is high time that we as take the lead in insuring that Domestic violence is not just reduced but completed eradicated from our communities. Source ~~~ Back to Table of Contents

Seven Important and Precious Advices regarding Recent Events by Shaykh-ul-Hadith, Shaykh Mawlānā Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullah During these critical times, the Muslims should observe the following: 1. With love and reverence, carefully study the beautiful life of our beloved Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam from authentic reliable sources. 2. Frequently make mention of this beautiful life to both Muslims and non-Muslims alike. 3. Distribute leaflets and booklets which cover aspects of this great life far and wide. 4. Give place to his illuminating teachings in your daily life so that others can appreciate the greatness of his exemplary conduct. 5. Send salutations and greetings upon him in abundance. 6. Supplicate to Allāh ta‘ālā, beseeching Him to pardon our sins and to grant us assistance and protection from all evil. 7. Exercise patience and remain within the boundary set by our beloved Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam. They can be downloaded as PDF in English, French, Spanish, Arabic & Urdu. Please read, practise & share.

Important article posted by Shaykh Abdur Raheem Limbada [db] a few hours ago. A must-read for all Muslims! Guidelines for the Muslim Community regarding new cartoons to be published Tomorrow - Wednesday 14 January 2015 The following points are general guidelines for Muslims on how to initially deal with and immediately react to the depiction of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ in magazines due to be published tomorrow (WEDNESDAY). 1. For every Muslim, Love of the Prophet ﷺ is a NECESSARY part of his/her FAITH. He is dearer to us than our mothers, fathers, sons & daughters. We prefer him to our own self. 2. The publishing of cartoons will definitely hurt the sentiments of 1.8 billion Muslims around the world, as well as millions of non-Muslims who respect the great personality of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). 3. Muslims do believe in freedom of speech. And they do respect the right for people to say what they believe to be correct. However, we all know that there is no such thing as absolute free speech. There are laws to protect the dignity and properties of people. We urge all decent minded Governments and individuals to respect these sensitivities, as we should respect all races and religions. 4. As it is clear that the cartoons are to be published again, Muslims will inevitably be hurt and angered, but our reaction must be a reflection of the teachings of the one we love & are angered for, ﷺ. Enduring patience, tolerance, gentleness and mercy as was the character of our beloved Prophet (peace and Blessings be upon him) is the best and immediate way to respond. With dignified nobility we must be restrained, as the Quran says “And when the ignorant speak to them, they say words of Peace.” Our aim is to not, inadvertently, give the cartoons more prominence through our attention. Muslims must remain calm and peaceful in their speech and actions. Repel harm with goodness is the Qur’anic imperative and by which the Prophet Muhammad lived. Legal action, civil protest, letter writing & other legal avenues can then be considered, insha Allah. 5. Muslims have to remember that by depicting the Prophet ﷺ, no one can ever tarnish his image, as he is way beyond what is depicted, as Allah says, ‘We have elevated for you your name’. We should spend such regrettable moments in reading lots of Durood, sending salawaat and blessings to his beloved personality. May Allah's mercy, peace & blessing be upon his soul. 6. Engage with others about your feelings. Speak of your love for the Prophet ﷺ and do not be shy to let your non-Muslims friends know your justified anger at the mockery that is made of our faith. People need to know HOW MUCH WE LOVE OUR NABI ﷺ. 7. Learn more & share more about the great Prophet Muhammed ﷺ. Hassaan bin Thaabit (may Allah be pleased with him) describes him with the following couplets: "My eyes have never seen anyone more perfect than you No woman has given birth to anyone more handsome than you You have been created free from all defects As if you were created the way you wished" 8. We should, through our actions and deeds, display the sublime character of the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Prophet faced many great challenges but he exhibited impeccable beauty and character in his actions. He did not react inhumanely or violently. He was attacked verbally and physically in Taif but he forgave the people. His uncle and companions were murdered but he reacted peacefully and in a human manner. And there are many such examples from the seerah of the Prophet (peace be upon him) we must display. 9. As British citizens we must not allow tragic incidents of Paris allow hate to creep into our hearts. Muslims, non-Muslims and people of all backgrounds must come together and show unity and solidarity and not let it divide our communities. We must remember the statements of the Prophet (peace be upon him) such as: “Someone who unjustly kills a Dhimmi (non-Muslim person under protection) cannot attain a whiff of Heaven. However, its fragrance is felt from a distance of forty years. (Sahih Bukhari), or, “He who hurts a Dhimmi (non-Muslim person under protection) hurts me, and he who hurts me annoys Allah.” (Tabarani) And many other similar hadiths highlighting that Muslims are not allowed to hurt their non-Muslim brothers and sisters in humanity. 10. We must continuously supplicate to Allah that He rectifies our situation. Pray to Him that the chaos, injustice and oppression is lifted from our society. We should pray to Allah so that He makes Britain a better, fairer and just country for all. Pray to Him to aid the oppressed and the victims of the oppressors in France and all over the world. Pray that He allows us to contribute to a more peaceful and just world. Sincerely pray at night and beseech Him to protect our honour and our dignity. May Allah give us the ability to do what is right and avoid what is wrong. May Allah protect the humanity from trials and tribulations. Ameen By shaykh Yunus Haleebi

Childbirth ("Wilaadah") The ushering of a new life into this world is indeed a miracle. Application of the prescribed Islamic observances at this precious occasion secures protection, blessings and inspiration for the newborn along the journey of life. The arrival of a newborn into this world is an occasion which brings great joy and delight to the parents, families and friends. The newborn breathes new life and inspiration into the hearts of the parents. Difficulties and tribulations are forgotten, and the parents' focus and concern is now directed to their new baby. However, it is also imperative to bear in mind that coupled with this joy and delight, the arrival of a newborn is a tremendous responsibility upon the shoulders of the parents. The Shariah has prescribed certain practices on this occasion, which are very beneficial, and if carried out correctly, will have positive effects on the child. All meaningless traditions, rituals and customs, which bear negative repercussions for the child, should be abandoned. Only those practices directed to us by the Shariah should be observed. After the Birth of the Child If possible and health permitting the child should be given a Ghusl (bath). Thereafter, the Athaan should be called into the child's right ear and Iqaumah in the left ear. (Mirqaat, vol.8 pg.81) The Athaan may be called by the child's father or an adult Muslim. By calling out the Athaan and Iqaumah into the newborn's ears, the Oneness of Allah Ta'ala and the message of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) reach the depths of the child's heart. The seed of Iman and faith is embedded in the child. Athaan also repels Shaytan. (ibid) It is preferable to recite the following Dua after the Athaan and Iqaumah. (Mirqaat, vol.8 pg.82) For a boy recite: Allahumma inni Ueezuhu bika wa Zurriyyatahu Minash shaytaanir Rajeem. O Allah, I seek your protection for him and his progeny from the cursed Shaytan. (Surah Aal Imran) For a girl recite: Allahumma inni Ueezuha bika wa Zurriyyataha Minash shaytaanir Rajeem. O Allah, I seek your protection for her and her progeny from the cursed Shaytan. (Surah Aal Imran) Thereafter recite: Bismillah Rahmaan Nir Raheem. Qul Huwallahu Ahad Allahus Samad Lam Yalid walam Yulad wa lamyakullahu kufuwan Ahad. In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent the Most merciful. Say! He is Allah, the One. Allah is one on whom the entire creation depends and He depends on no one. He does not beget nor is He begotten. And there is no one like Him. (Surah Ikhlaas) For a boy read: Allahumma Allimhul Kitaab wal Hikmata wa Faqqihhu Fiddeen. O Allah teach him the Quran and wisdom (the Sunnah) and bless him with the understanding of Deen. (Bukhari) For a girl read: Allahumma Allimhal Kitaab wal Hikmat wa Faqqihha fiddeen. O Allah, teach her the Quran and wisdom (the Sunnah) and bless her with the understanding of Deen. (Bukhari) One may also recite (for a boy: Allahummaj alhu Barran Taqiyyan wa ambithu Fil Islami Nabaatan Hasana. O Allah, make him pious and Allah conscious and let him excel in Islam in an excellent manner. For a girl read: Allahummaj alha Barratan Taqiyyatan wa ambitha fil Islaami Nabaatan Hasana. O Allah, make her pious and Allah conscious and let her excel in Islam in an excellent manner. The afterbirth (placenta) and navel cord: The afterbirth and navel-cord should be treated with respect and buried with due care, since they are portions of the human body. Disposing it in an incinerator or waste centre is unacceptable. The dead body of a human being, limbs and organs should not be incinerated or abandoned. Tahneek: Tahneek means, placing a tiny portion of a chewed substance into the mouth of the infant, preferably dates. Honey or anything sweet may be an ideal substitute for it. Tahneek is a Sunnah practice. (Sharhu Nawawi 'ala Sahih Muslim, vol. 7 pg.349) Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) himself performed the Tahneek of many Sahaabah (companions) (like), Abdullah bin Zubair and Abdullah bin Talha (radiyallahu anhuma). The purpose of Tahnik is to take a good omen in that the first thing to enter the belly of the child was the saliva of a pious servant of Allah. It is hoped that the child will be affected by his piety. (Sharh Nawawi, vol.7 pg.349). A pious family member or Aalim may perform the Tahneek. If Tahneek is omitted for some reason, there is no harm or sin. Aqeeqah: Aqeeqah means, to remove the baby's hair from the head, slaughter an animal(s) on behalf of the child, and select a suitable Islamic name for the child. These practices should be carried out preferably on the 7th day after birth. (Note: in determining the 7th day, the date of birth should be considered as the 1st). It is Mustahab (commendable) to sacrifice an animal on behalf of the child on the 7th day. For the purpose of Aqeeqah, 2 sheep or goats should be slaughtered for a boy and 1 sheep or goat for a girl. Alternately, 2 shares from a sacrificial animal of seven shares can be sacrificed for a boy and 1 share for a girl. (Sunan Tirmithi Hadith; 1516). It is also Mustahab to remove the baby's hair on this day, and silver, equivalent to the weight of the hair should be given in charity. If the above practices are being carried out on the 7th day, then it will also be preferable to name the child on this day. Or else one may even name the child on the first day. (Fathul Baaari vol.9 pg.671 chapter.71; also see Al-Azkaar, pg.361) Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) had named his son: Sayyiduna Ibrahim (alayhis salaam) on the day of birth. (Sahih Muslim). It has been reported in one Hadith that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) performed the Aqeeqah of Hasan (RA) and instructed Fatima (RA) to remove his hair and give the equivalent of its weight of silver in charity. This equivalent was one dirham or less. (Mishkat) Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "The child is safeguarded through his Aqeeqah, which is slaughtering on his behalf on the 7th day, shaving his hair from the head and giving him an Islamic name." (Mishkat). Note: The aforementioned practices are not compulsory. If one has the means and carries them out there will be immense benefit. These practices should be carried out according to one's financial capacity. Unnecessarily burdening oneself beyond one's means by taking loans to fulfil these practices should be avoided. In fact some Tabi'in have stated that in this case when such a person offers Qurbâni later in his life, it will also suffice for his 'Aqeeqah. (Fathul Baari, Hadith: 5472) It is permissible for everyone to partake of the Aqeeqah meat. The child's parents, family, neighbours and friends may all partake, or it may be distributed. The meat of Aqeeqah cannot be sold. The Dua to be read when doing the Aqeeqah is: Allahumma haaza Aqeeqatu (name of a child), damuha bi damihee wa lahmuha bi lahmihee wa azmuha bi azmihee wa jilduhaa bi jildihee wa sha'ruha bi sha'rihee. Allahumma jalha fida'a ibnee minan naar. O Allah, I sacrifice this animal in Your name for my child, in substitution, blood for blood, flesh for flesh, bones for bones, skin for skin and hair for hair. O Allah accept this sacrifice as a protection for my child from the fire of hell. After shaving the head one may apply Saffron on the head of the child. (Sunan Abi Dawud, Hadith: 2836 - Beheshti Zewar, part.3 pg.42). Source

O! You Muslims who are… Desirous to drive large, shiny cars, REMEMBER: You will be driven one day as a horizontal passenger. Wild and crazy over expensive clothes, REMEMBER: You will end up in just a ‘KAFN.’ Recklessly sacrificing everything to construct beautiful homes and palatial mansions, REMEMBER: the graveyard ‘PIT’ – one’s real home. Greedily devouring tasty dishes and all types of extravagant delicacies, REMEMBER: one day YOU will be the meal for ants, worms and other insects. Aspiring for fame, fortune, and bright lights. REMEMBER: the awaiting darkness and loneliness in the grave. Source: ‘DEATH’ by Husainiyah Publications Estcourt

Q: What is the Sunnah method of congratulating the bride and bridegroom on the occasion of nikah? A: Whenever Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) congratulated a Sahaabi on the occasion of nikah, he congratulated him with the following dua: بَارَك اللهُ لَك وبَارَك عَلَيْكَ وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِيْ الْخَيْر "May Allah Ta'ala bless you and grant you abundant barkat in your nikaah and may t​his union be a means of all good" And Allah Ta'ala knows best. عن أبي هريرة : أن النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم كان إذا رفأ الإنسان إذا تزوج قال بارك الله لك وبارك عليك وجمع بينكما في الخير (جامع الترمذي رقم 1091) Answered by: Mufti Zakaria Makada Checked & Approved: Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

Sins, their effects and Repentance in Islam Devastation of sinning: We (human beings) are spiritual beings in addition to being physical entities. Our Creator (Allah) has placed an innate desire (a homing beacon) within our souls for us to accept goodness and to feel guilty on breaching the commands of our Creator. We have to go against our natural (primordial) nature to become satisfied (or even live) with a state of disobedience. Our natural and upright nature is to accept the commands of our Creator and to be obedient as stated in the Qur’aan: فَأَقِمۡ وَجۡهَكَ لِلدِّينِ حَنِيفً۬ا‌ۚ فِطۡرَتَ ٱللَّهِ ٱلَّتِى فَطَرَ ٱلنَّاسَ عَلَيۡہَا‌ۚ لَا تَبۡدِيلَ لِخَلۡقِ ٱللَّهِ‌ۚ ذَٲلِكَ ٱلدِّينُ ٱلۡقَيِّمُ وَلَـٰكِنَّ أَڪۡثَرَ ٱلنَّاسِ لَا يَعۡلَمُونَ Whenever a sin is committed (a disobedience of the Creator) those who still have a good (uncorrupted sound) nature will become restless and won’t find peace. This is the reason why you find people repenting, crying, being remorseful and constantly reflecting upon the sin. However, the devastation of sins is not just limited to being restless its effects are multifaceted and affect many aspects of our lives. Shaykh (Imam) Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyya (RA) has mentioned up to 10 side effects of sin: Deprivation of Knowledge: حرمان العلم ، فإن العلم نور يقذفه الله في القلب ، والمعصية تُطفئ ذلك النور . ولما جلس الشافعي بين يدي مالك وقرأ عليه أعجبه ما رأى من وفور فطنته ، وتوقُّد ذكائه ، وكمال فهمه ، فقال : إني أرى الله قد ألقى على قلبك نوراً ، فلا تُطفئه بظلمة المعصية Being deprived of knowledge for knowledge is light that Allaah causes to reach the heart, and sin extinguishes that light. When Imam Al-Shafi‘i (RA)Al-Shafi‘i (RA) sat before Imam Malik ibn Anas (RA)Malik ibn Anas (RA) and read to him, he admired him because of the intelligence, alertness and understanding that he saw in him. He said: “I think that Allah has caused light to enter your heart, so do not extinguish it with the darkness of sin.” Deprivation of Provisions: حرمان الرزق ففي مسند الإمام أحمد عن ثوبان قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وسلم : " إن الرجل ليُحرم الرزق بالذنب يُصيبه " رواه ابن ماجه In Musnad Ahmad it is narrated that Sayyidina Thawbaan (RA) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said: "A man is deprived of provision because of the sins that he commits." [ibn Majah] Alienation from Creator وحشة تحصل للعاصي بينه وبين ربه ، وبينه وبين الناس .قال بعض السلف : إني لأعصي الله ، فأرى ذلك في خلق دابتي وامرأتي Sense of alienation that comes between a person and his Lord, and between him and other people. One of the salaf (righteous predecessors) said: “If I disobey Allah, I see that in the attitude of my riding beast and my wife.” Life becomes difficult: تعسير أموره عليه ، فلا يتوجه لأمرٍ إلا ويجده مغلقاً دونه أو متعسراً عليه ، وهذا كما أن من اتقى الله جعل له من أمره يسرا Things become difficult for him, so that he does not turn his attention towards any matter but he finds the way blocked or he finds it difficult. By the same token, for the one who fears Allaah, things are made easy for him as stated in the Qur'aan: وَمَن يَتَّقِ ٱللَّهَ يَجۡعَل لَّهُ ۥ مَخۡرَجً۬ وَيَرۡزُقۡهُ مِنۡ حَيۡثُ لَا يَحۡتَسِبُ‌ۚ وَمَن يَتَوَكَّلۡ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسۡبُهُ [65:2]... Whoever fears Allah, He brings forth a way out for him, [65:3] and provides him (with what he needs) from where he does not even imagine. Heart is darkened: أن العاصي يجد ظلمةً في قلبه ، يُحس بها كما يحس بظلمة الليل ، فتصير ظلمة المعصية لقلبه كالظلمة الحسية لبصره ، فإن الطاعة نور ، والمعصية ظلمة ، وكلما قويت الظلمة ازدادت حيرته حتى يقع في البدع والضلالات والأمور المهلكة وهو لا يشعر ، كأعمى خرج في ظلمة الليل يمشي وحده ، وتقوى هذه الظلمة حتى تظهر في العين ، ثم تقوى حتى تعلو الوجه، وتصير سواداً يراه كل أحد . قال عبد الله بن عباس : " إن للحسنة ضياءً في الوجه ، ونوراً في القلب ، وسعةً في الرزق ، وقوةً في البدن ، ومحبةً في قلوب الخلق ، وإن للسيئة سواداً في الوجه ، وظلمةً في القلب ، ووهناً في البدن , ونقصاً في الرزق ، وبغضةً في قلوب الخلق " . The sinner will find darkness in his heart, which he will feel just as he feels the darkness of night. So this darkness affects his heart as the physical darkness affects his vision. For obedience is light and disobedience is darkness. The stronger the darkness grows, the greater becomes his confusion, until he falls into innovation, misguidance and other things that lead to doom, without even realizing, like a blind man who goes out in the darkness of the night, walking alone This darkness grows stronger until it covers the eyes, then it grows stronger until it covers the face, which appears dark and is seen by everyone. Sayyidina ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas (RA) said: “Good deeds make the face light, give light to the heart, and bring about ample provision, physical strength and love in people’s hearts. Bad deeds make the face dark, give darkness to the heart, and bring about physical weakness, a lack of provision and hatred in people’s hearts.” Deprivation of Obedience & Worship حرمان الطاعة ، فلو لم يكن للذنب عقوبةٌ إلا أن يُصدَّ عن طاعةٍ تكون بدله ، وتقطع طريق طاعة أخرى ، فينقطع عليه بالذنب طريقٌ ثالثة ثم رابعة وهلم جرا ، فينقطع عنه بالذنب طاعات كثيرة ، كل واحدة منها خير له من الدنيا وما عليها ، وهذا كرجل أكل أكلةً أوجبت له مرضاً طويلا منعه من عدة أكلات أطيب منها والله المستعان If sin brought no punishment other than that it prevents a person from doing an act of worship which is the opposite of sin, and cuts off access to other acts of worship, that would be bad enough. So the sin cuts off a third way and a fourth way and so on, and because of the sin he is cut off from many acts of worship, each of which would have been better for him than this world and everything in it. So he is like a man who eats food that is bound to cause a lengthy sickness, and thus he is deprived of many other foods that are better than that. And Allaah is the One Whose help we seek. Sin breeds sin: أن المعاصي تزرع أمثالها ، ويُولِّد بعضها بعضاً ، حتى يعز على العبد مفارقتها والخروج منها Sin breeds sin until it dominates a person and he cannot escape from it. Weakens willpower: أن المعاصي تُضعف القلب عن إرادته ، فتقوى إرادة المعصية ، وتضعف إرادة التوبة شيئاً فشيئاً إلى أن تنسلخ من قلبه إرادة التوبة بالكلية ، ... فيأتي من الاستغفار وتوبة الكذابين باللسان بشيءٍ كثير ، وقلبه معقودٌ بالمعصية ، مُصرٌ عليها ، عازم على مواقعتها متى أمكنه ، وهذا من أعظم الأمراض وأقربها إلى الهلاك It gradually strengthens his will to commit sin and weakens his will to repent until there is no will in his heart to repent at all… so he seeks forgiveness and expresses repentance, but it is merely words on the lips, like the repentance of the liars, whose hearts are still determined to commit sin and persist in it. This is one of the most serious diseases that are most likely to lead to doom. Desensitisation towards sin and evil: أنه ينسلخ من القلب استقباح المعصية فتصير له عادة ، لا يستقبح من نفسه رؤية الناس له ،ولا كلامهم فيه . وهذا عند أرباب الفسوق هو غاية التهتك وتمام اللذة ، حتى يفتخر أحدهم بالمعصية ، ويُحدِّث بها من لم يعلم أنه عملها ، فيقول : يا فلان ، عملت كذا وكذا . وهذا الضرب من الناس لا يعافون ، ويُسدُّ عليهم طريق التوبة ،وتغلق عنهم أبوابها في الغالب . كما قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم : " كلُّ أمتي معافى إلا المجاهرون ، وإنَّ من المجاهرة : أن يستر الله العبد ثم يُصبح يفضح نفسه ويقول : يا فلان عملت يوم كذا .. كذا وكذا ، فيهتك نفسه وقد بات يستره ربه " He will become desensitized and will no longer find sin abhorrent, so it will become his habit, and he will not be bothered if people see him committing the sin or talk about him. For the leaders of immorality, this is the ultimate shamelessness in which they find great pleasure, such that they feel proud of their sin and will speak of it to people who do not know that they have done it, saying, “O so and so, I did such and such.” Such people cannot be helped and the path to repentance is blocked for them in most cases. Hearts is stamped/marked: أن الذنوب إذا تكاثرت طُبِعَ على قلب صاحبها ، فكان من الغافلين . كما قال بعض السلف في قوله تعالى : { كلا بل ران على قلوبهم ما كانوا يكسبون } قال : هو الذنب بعد الذنب When there are many sins they leave a mark on the heart of the person who commits them, so he becomes one of the negligent. As one of the salaf said, concerning the aayah (verse): this means sin after sin. Witnesses of sinning: There is no such thing as a “private sin” in Islam. There are multiple witnesses to every sin as follows: Earth witnesses sins and its testimony against you: إِذَا زُلۡزِلَتِ ٱلۡأَرۡضُ زِلۡزَالَهَا وَأَخۡرَجَتِ ٱلۡأَرۡضُ أَثۡقَالَهَا وَقَالَ ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنُ مَا لَهَا يَوۡمَٮِٕذٍ۬ تُحَدِّثُ أَخۡبَارَهَا ٱلۡيَوۡمَ نَخۡتِمُ عَلَىٰٓ أَفۡوَٲهِهِمۡ وَتُكَلِّمُنَآ أَيۡدِيہِمۡ وَتَشۡہَدُ أَرۡجُلُهُم بِمَا كَانُواْ يَكۡسِبُونَ Angels witness sins and their testimony against you: وَإِنَّ عَلَيۡكُمۡ لَحَـٰفِظِينَ كِرَامً۬ا كَـٰتِبِينَ يَعۡلَمُونَ مَا تَفۡعَلُونَ Sin is recorded in your book of deeds: وَإِذَا ٱلصُّحُفُ نُشِرَتۡ I have sinned, what now? You need to understand that Allah (SWT) has created human weak and perfection is not an attribute of our creation. Our Creator knows that we are weak and He (SWT) intends to then make things easy for us when we make mistakes, Allah (SWT) declares in the Qur’aan: يُرِيدُ ٱللَّهُ أَن يُخَفِّفَ عَنكُمۡ‌ۚ وَخُلِقَ ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنُ ضَعِيفً۬ا . It is understood as part of our (weak) nature that we will commit sins from time to time. It is expected from him to occasionally slip up but then we are advised to acknowledge our weakness, acknowledge our error, repent and turn to Allah (SWT). Those of us who acknowledge our weakness and errors with humility and then turn to our Creator seeking forgiveness are considered the best. Seeking forgivnes is what sets apart the humble and the haughty, the submissive from the arrogant and the modest from the proud. كل ابن آدم خطاء وخير الخطائين التوابون Allah (SWT) is the Most Merciful of those who show Mercy and every ready to shower and immerse us in Mercy. He (SWT) looks for opportunities to shower his Mercy upon those who have turn to him in sincerity seeking forgiveness. عن أبي هريرة ، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال : إن لله مائة رحمة ، أنزل منها رحمة واحدة بين الجن والإنس والبهائم والهوام ، فبها يتعاطفون ، وبها يتراحمون ، وبها تعطف الوحش على ولدها ، وأخر الله تسعا وتسعين رحمة ، يرحم بها عباده يوم القيامة Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (RA) narrated that Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said: “Allah has one hundred parts of mercy, of which He sent down one between the jinn, mankind, the animals and the insects, by means of which they are compassionate and merciful to one another, and by means of which wild animals are kind to their offspring. And Allah has kept back ninety-nine parts of mercy with which to be merciful to His slaves of the Day of Resurrection.” [Muslim] In fact, Allah (SWT) is so eager to forgive that he (SWT) has declared that if we didn’t commit sins (thus for Allah (SWT) to forgive) then he would replace us by those who sin so Mercy can be showered upon them! عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَوْ لَمْ تُذْنِبُوا لَذَهَبَ اللَّهُ بِكُمْ وَلَجَاءَ بِقَوْمٍ يُذْنِبُونَ فَيَسْتَغْفِرُونَ اللَّهَ فَيَغْفِرُ لَهُمْ Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (RA) narrated that Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said: “By Him in whose hand is my soul, if you did not sin Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek the forgiveness of Allah and He would forgive them.” [Muslim] So what do I have to do to seek forgiveness from Allah (SWT)? In Islam, repentance has to fulfil 3 conditions and a 4th additional condition if the sin was committed towards another human, Imam Nawawi (RA) enumerates them are as follows: Disconnect and detach yourself from the sin: أحدها أن يقلع عَنْ المعصية Feel remorseful over the sin: والثاني أن يندم عَلَى فعلها Commit to not repeating the sin, permanently: والثالث أن يعزم أن لا يعود إليها أبدا Absolve yourself from the rights of another human: وإن كانت المعصية تتعلق بآدمي فشروطها أربعة: هذه الثلاثة وأن يبرأ مِنْ حق صاحبها. فأن كانت مالا أو نحوه رده إليه، وإن كان حد قذف ونحوه مكنه مِنْه أو طلب عفوه، وإن كانت غيبة استحله مِنْها But if the sin involves a human's right, it requires a fourth condition, i.e., to absolve onself from such right. If it is a property, he should return it to its rightful owner. If it is slandering or backbiting, one should ask the pardon of the offended. What should I do after I have repented? And what happens when I commit the sin, again? The conditions of repentance (above) have to be valid at the time of seeking forgiveness. A sound (firm) intention is needed. Once you have turned to Allah (SWT) with sincerity and repented then don’t dwell on the matter! It is part of human nature to slip up then you need to seek forgiveness again. Don’t be despondent of the Mercy of Allah (SWT) and don’t be tricked by the Shaytaan into thinking that your repentance is futile! We must try our human best to resist and leave the sin and this doesn’t mean that the person should continue to sin (willing and voluntarily) and also keep seeking repentance. There has to be a genuine effort to break the cycle of sin. قال [ عمر بن عبد العزيز ] : " أيها الناس مَن ألمَّ بذنبٍ فليستغفر الله وليتب ، فإن عاد فليستغفر الله وليتب ، فإن عاد فليستغفر وليتب ، فإنما هي خطايا مطوَّقة في أعناق الرجال ، وإن الهلاك في الإصرار عليها " Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez (RA) said: O people, whoever commits a sin, let him seek the forgiveness of Allah and repent, and if he repeats it, let him seek the forgiveness of Allah and repent, and if he repeats it, let him seek the forgiveness of Allah and repent, for it is like chains around the neck of man, and doom lies in persisting in it. قيل للحسن البصري : ألا يستحيى أحدنا من ربه يستغفر من ذنوبه ثم يعود ، ثم يستغفر ثم يعود ؟ فقال : ود الشيطان لو ظفر منكم بهذا ، فلا تملُّوا من الاستغفار It was said to al-Hasan al-Basri (RA): Would not any one of us feel ashamed before his Lord to seek forgiveness from his sin then go back to it, then seek forgiveness then go back to it? He said: The shaytan would like you to feel that way; never give up seeking forgiveness. What do you mean by perpetual repentance? A sincere believer is someone who is full of servitude and humility. He accepts that despite his best efforts he can never fulfil the rights of Allah (SWT) as they ought to be fulfilled, his best in devotion and exertion in performing acts of worship will fall short of when compared to the grandeur and rights of Allah (SWT). Importantly, he never regards his efforts to be exemplary, rather relies solely on the Mercy of Allah (SWT). Our Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) despite being (the highest) of the Prophets still turned to Allah (SWT) hundred times a day so where are we? وعن الأَغَرِّ بْن يَسار المُزنِيِّ رضي الله عنه قال : قال رسول الله صَلّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم : يا أَيُّها النَّاس تُوبُوا إِلى اللَّهِ واسْتغْفرُوهُ فإِني أَتوبُ في اليَوْمِ مائة مَرَّة Sayyidina Al-Agharr bin Yasar Al-Muzani (RA) narrated that: The Messenger of Allah (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said: "Turn you people in repentance to Allah and beg pardon of Him. I turn to Him in repentance a hundred times a day". [Muslim] قَالَ اللَّهُ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ إِنَّكَ مَا دَعَوْتَنِي وَرَجَوْتَنِي غَفَرْتُ لَكَ عَلَى مَا كَانَ فِيكَ وَلَا أُبَالِي يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ لَوْ بَلَغَتْ ذُنُوبُكَ عَنَانَ السَّمَاءِ ثُمَّ اسْتَغْفَرْتَنِي غَفَرْتُ لَكَ وَلَا أُبَالِي يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ إِنَّكَ لَوْ أَتَيْتَنِي بِقُرَابِ الْأَرْضِ خَطَايَا ثُمَّ لَقِيتَنِي لَا تُشْرِكُ بِي شَيْئًا لَأَتَيْتُكَ بِقُرَابِهَا مَغْفِرَةً Therefore a daily schedule should be organised and sometime set aside for Astaghfaar (daily recitation of (أستغفر الله) astaġfiru l-lāh i.e. "I seek forgiveness from Allah". This can be recited any number of time but for the sake of consistency and developing a perpetual habit a count of 100 should be set and this should be recited 100 times daily. We have recorded some daily recitations in this article for anyone to benefit and formulate their own schedule and routine. Should I tell others about my sin? Absolutely not! If Allah (SWT) has been Merciful to you and your wrongdoing has been hidden from people then you should not disclose and publicise your sin. If you wish to ask people to make dua for you to remain steadfast then you can say in general terms that I made a mistake and I request that you make dua for Allah (SWT) to prevent me from making the same (or similar) mistake again. The disclosure of sins is strictly forbidden under normal circumstances. أبي هريرة ـ رضي الله عنه ـ أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: كل أمتي معافى إلا المجاهرين، وإن من المجاهرة أن يعمل الرجل بالليل عملاً، ثم يصبح وقد ستره الله عليه فيقول: يا فلان عملت البارحة كذا كذا، وقد بات يستره ربه ويصبح يكشف ستر الله عنه Conclusion: We conclude this brief treatise with the dua for Allah (SWT) to give us and all Muslims the ability to repent (sincerely), routinely and perpetually (Ameen) and end this piece with this beautiful narration about the Mercy of Allah (SWT). إذا تاب العبد أنسى الله الحفظة ذنوبه و أنسى ذلك جوارحه و معالمه من الأرض حتى يلقى الله و ليس عليه شاهد من الله بذنب The ordeal of sincere repentance Shaykh Abu Yusuf Riyadhul-Haq (HA) AUDIO at CENTRA-MOSQUE

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