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A Wake-Up Call! By Umme Ammarah Life is a journey with important lessons that are learned along the way. It’s full of surprises encompassing moments of happiness and sadness. During this journey we need to be mindful of our ultimate destination. Often in pursuit of our material objectives, we are so absorbed and obsessed that we become oblivious about those important people that are near and dear to us and forget about our greater and real purpose in life. There was a very successful executive, Mike, traveling down a busy neighbourhood street. He was speeding in his sleek, black, two month old BMW Coupe. A brick sailed out and - Baaangg! - it smashed Into the BMW's shiny black side door! SCREECH..!!!! Brakes slammed! Gears ground into reverse, and tires madly spun the car back to the spot from where the brick had been thrown. Mike jumped out of the car, grabbed the kid and pushed him up against a parked car. He shouted at the kid, "What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing?!" Building up a head of steam, he went on. "That's my new BMW, that brick you threw is going to cost you a lot of money. Why did you throw it?" "Please, mister, please. . . I'm sorry! I didn't know what else to do", pleaded the youngster. "I threw the brick because no one else would stop!" Tears were dripping down the boy's chin as he pointed around the parked car. "It's my brother, mister," he said. "He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up." Sobbing, the boy asked the executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's really hurt and he's too heavy for me." Moved beyond words, the young executive tried desperately to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. Straining, he lifted the young man back into the wheelchair and took out his handkerchief and wiped the scrapes and cuts, checking to see that everything was going to be OK. He then watched the younger brother push him down the sidewalk towards their home. It was a long walk back to the sleek, black, shining, BMW -a long and slow walk. Mike never fixed the side door of his car. He kept the dent to remind him not to go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at him to get his attention. It was indeed a real wake-up call! A brick thrown at us is not always a tragedy and could be blessing in disguise as it brings a deep realisation within us that we need to do some serious introspection and to become more conscious about our greater purpose and objectives in life. Allah says: '...and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.' (Qur’an:Surah Baqarah: 216) In life there is always another dimension to a tragedy and in all situations one can find goodness and reward from Allah Ta’ala provided one endures patiently. Sure it is not easy to undergo a difficulty and remain unhurt, but know in your mind and believe in your heart that it is indeed better for you. We need to be positive as traverse this journey of life and each difficulty or problem that we encounter can be medication for our soul and a preparation for the onward journey. Allah Ta’ala says: “Verily, with hardship there is relief” (Qur'an 94:6). We have absolutely no control over what happens to us in life but what we have vital control over is how we respond to those events. How we respond to them defines our character and the quality of our life. We can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of the loss, or we can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift we have – life itself! A crisis creates the opportunity to dip deep into the reservoirs of our very being, to rise to levels of confidence, strength, and resolve that otherwise we didn't think we possessed. No matter what challenges or obstacles we experience, we make a CHOICE to become better or bitter because of it. So the next time a brick is flung at us…remember it may just be that Wake-Up Call! May Allah Ta’ala grant us strength in adversity…Ameen. . www.eislam.co.za

Chapter on the Noble Features of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) The author has quoted in this chapter those Ahaadith that have been narrated on the noble features of Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). It is impossible to accurately describe the actual beauty and elegance of Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). To capture and describe in words his appearance is beyond one’s capability, but the Sahaabah (Radiyallahu Anhum) have endeavoured, according to their capabilities, to preserve what little they could, of which some is written here. Qurtubi (Rahmatullahi Alaihi) writes: “The full beauty and elegance of Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has not been made manifest to the people of this world, otherwise it would not have been possible for man to look at him.” The Sahaabah (Radiyallahu Anhum) have one the ummah an immense favour by conveying to them the perfect attributes, qualities and knowledge of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), as well as explained to them his apparent beauty and grandeur. When an unfulfilled lover is deprived of meeting the beloved, then he stands in front of the beloved’s house remembering the features of his beloved, in an attempt to gain some solace. It is from habits and features that the heart is appeased. Imaam Tirmizi (Rahmatullahi Alaihi) has collected about 400 Ahaadith and divided them into 55 chapters. In the first chapter, 14 Ahaadith are quoted. عن أنس رضي الله عنه قال: كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم ليس بالطويل البائن ولا بالقصير ولا بالأبيض الأمهق ولا بالآدم ولا بالجعد القطط ولا بالسبط بعثه الله على رأس أربعين سنة فأقام بمكة عشر سنين وبالمدينة عشرا وتوفاه الله على رأس ستين سنة وليس في رأسه ولحيته عشرون شعرة بيضاء. قال أبو عيسى هذا حديث حسن صحيح Hadhrat Anas (Radiyallahu Anhu) reports: Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was neither very tall nor was he short (like a dwarf or midget). In complexion he was neither extremely white (like lime), nor wheat brown (or so brown inclining towards a dark complexion). Rather Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam)’s mubaarak countenance and body was full of noor (illumination), even more than the noor of the 14th moon). The hair of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was neither very straight nor very curly (but slightly curly and wavy). When he reached the age of forty, Allah Ta’ala granted him nubuwwah. He lived in Makkah Mukarramah for ten years (the complete explanation will be given in the commentary), and in Madinah Munawwarah for ten years. He passed away at the age of sixty. At that time there was not even twenty strands of white hair on his mubaarak hair and beard. Commentary Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was of a medium stature, but slightly taller than the medium height. This has been clearly reported in a narration from Sayyidina Hind bin Abi Haalah (Radiyallahu Anhu) and others. An objection may arise concerning these two Ahaadith, that it is stated in one hadith that when Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) used to stand up in a group, he appeared to be the tallest amongst them. However, this was not due to his height, but was a result of a mu’jizah (miracle). This miracle was in order that no one could be seen greater than Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) in his outward, external beauty as no one was equal to him in his inward splendour and beauty. It is stated in the above-mentioned hadith that Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) lived after nubuwwah in Makkah Mukarramah for ten years. For this reason it is stated that he attained the age of sixty years. However this is contrary to what has been reported in the other Ahaadith, where it is stated that Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) lived there for thirteen years and attained the age of sixty three years. In some Ahaadith it is stated that Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) attained the age of sixty five years. At the end of this kitaab (Shamaail Tirmizi), Imaam Tirmizi will mention all three ahaadith with the chain of narrators. Imaam Bukhaari (Rahmatullahi Alaih) says: ‘Most narrations show that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) lived for sixty three years.’ The ulama have presented two explanations in order to reconcile these Ahaadith: The first explanation is that Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) received Nubuwwah at the age of forty and Risaalah three years later, and thereafter he lived for ten years in Makkah Mukarramah. According to this, the three years between the time he received Nubuwwah and Risaalah have been omitted in the Hadith under discussion. The second explanation is that among the Arabs, generally when counting and calculating, they used to omit the fractions and round off the number. For this reason, Sayyiduna Anas (Radiyallahu Anhu) has only calculated in tens in his narration and omitted the units. In the hadith where the age of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) is shown as sixty five, then the reason is that the years of birth and death have been counted separately. In short, the content of all the Ahaadith is the same. According to most authentic Ahaaadith, the age of Sayyiduna Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was sixty three years, therefore all the other Ahaadith will corroborate this. (Ihyaauddeen.co.za) يَا رَبِّ صَلِّ وَ سَلِّمْ دَائِمًا أَبَدًا عَلَى حَبِيبِكَ خَيرِ الخَلْقِ كُلِّهِمِ

Women Wear the Veil because it says so in the Quran Source: Asian Image Those who wear the veil are doing it for religious NOT cultural reasons says a Muslim organisation. The Lancashire Council of Mosques today released a statement which included a passage from the Quran which they said would clarify the issue after recent debates. The statement is signed by 50 local scholars and community representatives. It reads ‘Lancashire Council of Mosques would like to provide guidance and clarification, in order to dispel the stereotypes and myths that exist, and promote greater understanding, security and cohesion. ‘Islam places great emphasis on dressing modestly. The Almighty says in the Holy Qur’aan, “O Prophet! Ask…(believing) women…to draw their cloaks (Jilbâb) all over their bodies” (33:59). ‘One of the great wisdoms of the Islamic faith is the ability for Muslims to differ in their interpretation whilst remaining adherent to the same central tenets of the faith. Many Muslims believe the veil to be an integral part of their faith. ‘A particular and legitimate interpretation of Jilbâb referred to in the cited Quranic verse, is to cover and conceal the whole body (including the face) in such a way that the figure of the body does not show. ‘The practice of female companions covering their faces is also supported in various prophetic traditions. For the women who choose to wear the veil it is most definitely an Islamic and religious matter that is grounded in the Holy Qur’an and the traditions of the Prophet (Peace be Upon Him) and not merely a cultural issue, as some commentators would have.” The statement goes on to say women who wear the veil should not be vilified for their actions. It added, ‘It is important to note that the women who choose to wear the veil are normal human beings; individuals in their own right, as well as mothers, sisters, daughters, friends, colleagues and much more. ‘They are law-abiding and peaceful individuals who love their faith and are loyal citizens of our country. ‘For these women, the wearing of the veil actually allows them to play a fulfilling and active role in the community, something they would otherwise find more difficult ‘The veil is an intensely personal choice for many Muslim women who consider this to be an important tenet of their faith. ‘Just as it is completely unjustified to coerce women to wear the veil, it would be wholly wrong to curb their religious freedoms. ‘Similarly the use of language that may encourage prejudice against, and persecution of, women who choose to wear the veil is tantamount to the incitement of religious hatred, and serves to spread discord and disunity between our communities. ‘The wearing of the veil is a key expression and means of adhering to the Islamic faith, and, we thereby request all to take this into account and respect the choice of women who choose to adopt this dress code.’ The Signatories are: 1. Mrs. Bano Murtaja – Strategic Director for Women, Lancashire Council of Mosques. 2.Maulana Nasrullah Anwar – Director, Lancashire Council of Mosques. 3. Mrs. Shireen Mangera-Badat – Deputy Headteacher, Masjid-e-Saliheen, Preston. 4.Mr. Abdul Hamid Qureshi – Chairman, Masjid Ibrahim, Burnley. 5.Mrs. Latifa Patel – Senior Administrator, Lancashire Council of Mosques. 6.Mr. Mustafa Desai – Governor, Islamiya School, Blackburn. 7.Maulana Ahmed Sidat – Chairman, Jame Masjid, Blackburn. 8.Mrs. Maria Ahmed – Lancashire KeyWorker, HHUGS (Helping Households Under Great Stress). 9.Mufti Abdul Hamid Patel – Principal, Tauheedul Islam Girls High School, Blackburn. 10.Mrs. Faatima Patel – Principal, Madrasah Islamiyah Islamic Studies Faculty, Blackburn. 11.Mufti Vasiyyullah Bhayat – Chaplain, University of Central Lancashire, Preston. 12.Cllr Salim Mulla – Treasurer, Ethnic Minority Development Association, Blackburn. 13.Mrs. Shamima Adam – Sisters Programmes Co-ordinator, Masjid-e- Anisul Islam, Blackburn. 14.Mufti Mohammad Ali Falahi – Senior Imam, Masjid-e- Anisul Islam, Blackburn. 15.Maulana Hanif Dudhwala – Executive Member, Madrasah Anisul Islam, Blackburn. 16.Mrs. Shahin Karmali – Director of Women’s Department, Madrasah Anisul Islam, Blackburn. 17.Cllr Taalib Shamsuddin – St George’s Ward, Preston. 18.Mrs. Fatima Patel – Parenting Consultant. Lancashire Council of Mosques. 19.Maulana Yusuf Shabbir – Vice Chair, Blackburn Muslim Association. 20.Mrs. Nasimbanu Patel – Programmes Co-ordinator, Blackburn Muslim Association, Blackburn. 21.Maulana Rafiq Sufi – Principal, Muslim Youth Centre, Blackburn. 22.Miss Safeeyah Raja – Head of Senior Girls Department – Muslim Youth Centre, Blackburn. 23.Mrs. Ruwaida Ibrahim – Senior Teacher, Masjid e Falah, Preston. 24.Mrs. Kulsum Ahmed – Pastoral Director, Masjid Mumineen, Blackburn. 25.Maulana Mohammed Farook Kazi – Chair, Al-Ansaar Welfare & Education, Preston. 26.Mrs Safia Khatoon – RTB Coordinator, Lancashire Council of Mosques. 27.Maulana Mohammed Tayyab Sidat – Director, Inter Madrassah Organisation. 28.Mufti Abdul Haq – Head Teacher, Idara Rawdhatul Uloom, Blackburn. 29.Mrs. Fatima Rawat – Deputy Head Teacher, Masjid Bilaal, Blackburn. 30.Mrs. Fatima Salim – Executive Director for Women and Youth, Jamia Masjid, Blackburn. 31.Maulana Sajid Irshad – Imam, Masjid Farooqe Azam, Burnley. 32.Mr. Saleem Seedat – Co-Chair, Connect Blackburn. 33.Mrs. Farhana Asrar – Executive Member, Anwaarul Shabab, Blackburn. 34.Mrs. Nurjaha Mustak – Counseling Therapist, Blackburn. 35.Maulana Elyas Desai – Senior Imam, Maahadus Shuhada Mosque, Preston. 36.Mufti Ashraf Sidat – Principal, Madrassa Noorul Islam, Blackburn. 37.Mrs. Hajra Umar, Curriculum Director, Masjid -e- Irfan, Blackburn. 38.Maulana Imtiaz Kamal – Imam, Masjid-e-Saliheen, Preston. 39.Mufti Javid Pathan – Principal, Preston Muslim Girls High School. 40.Miss Khadija Nakhuda – Secretary, Sisters4Sisters, Preston. 41.Mrs. Atika Ahmed – Co-ordinator Sister’s Group, Madrasah Hidayatul Islam, Blackburn. 42.Mrs. Shakera Patel – Head of Womens Group, Hidayatul Banat, Blackburn. 43.Maulana Adbulmaajid Momaya – Imam, Masjid e Hidayah, Blackburn. 44.Mr. Kamruddin Kothia – Vice President, Masjid e Tauheedul Islam, Blackburn. 45.Mufti Adam Ismail – Imam, Masjid Quwwatul Islam, Preston. 46.Mrs. Khadija Valimulla – Designer, Al-Muzzammil, Blackburn. 47.Mrs Hajra Desai – Vice-chair, Sisters4Sisters, Preston. 48.Maulana Zia – Deputy Head Teacher, Al-Asr Primary School, Blackburn. 49.Mrs. Sajida Patel, Assistant Principal, Masjid Taleemul Islam, Blackburn. 50.Mrs. Sana Ismail – Head of Counselling Support, Tauheedul Islam Girls High School, Blackburn.

Interview with a Second Wife First jazaki Allahu khairun (may Allah reward you) for approaching me and sharing this intimate part of your life with our readers. Let’s start at the beginning, how did you come to be a second wife? Was it something you sought out or did your husband approach you? As-Salam Alaikum. First I want to say that I am very pleased to have an interview with you about polygyny. Well, for this question, it will be a little hard to answer. The fact is that I was very much interested in him, but showed no sign. On the other hand, I am assuming he was not interested in me, or he was playing the same game and showed no sign. But, the fact was that there was a rumor that he refuses to marry anyone else who tried to because he was content with one wife. So, I just felt as a little girl with a crush which was eventually going to disappear. One day, there was a misunderstanding in a statement I made, he took it the wrong way because that was just his desire (miraculously). I knew then he liked me back, so I suggested he goes to my Wali (male guardian) and he did the next day. A lot of sisters question the husbands motives for marrying more than one wife. Without wanting to delve into anything too personal, what were the circumstances that led your husband to marry again? Well, one thing I know is that he was very careful and didn’t want to marry for the wrong reasons and turned down many offers. So, to my understanding, I am assuming that children was one of the strongest issue. He has been married to his first wife for 6 years whom is older then him and they have no children and from how he is known in the community, he adores children and children adores him. Still many sisters question the motives of a second wife, some sisters have even harshly compared second wives to mistresses. What do you have to say to those sisters? My immediate response is to be careful what comes out of their mouths, they will be questioned about it. This is Islam. Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) made it permissible. But, I strongly believe one of the reasons for such ignorance is the way some brothers go about doing it. The secrecy, the lies and deceit. Unfortunately, some of our Muslim brothers act like the people in Jahilliyah (the time of ignorance before Islam) What I mean by that, they would hide their second marriage, they would give the first wife more time and more money etc… Then, hey, what else can you call that? Alhamdullillah, I am known to be as special to my husband as his first wife is. I am no secret, he pays my rent just like he pays hers. So, my sisters, just get a brother who fears Allah to not go through feeling like a mistress. From your point of view how do you think your husbands first wife dealt with your marriage? Hummm!!! You see, my husband does not discuss it much. But what he did tell me once is that she was not too happy at first and refused to talk to me when I asked my husband to talk to her. I had a conversation with him on how it is his duty to make her feel secure and loved. He never really discussed that anymore and I never asked him either. What assured me that she is not ready to have a friendship with me is that she had a nice and respectful conversation with me once but extremely brief. But her niece who comes to the Masjid pretty often shows nothing but love and kindness towards me, offers me food and hugs. I also met her sister last week who was very nice to me as well. You’ve talked a bit about how you see your co-wife to me before and I admired what you said, how do you feel about your co-wife and what efforts have you made to reach out to her? Like I said, at first, before we even got married, I asked if I can talk to her and her answer was no, and that she doesn’t need to talk to me. After we got married, I kept insisting to my husband. He said its best to wait for the right time, maybe when she moves to the USA. Before my husband left to visit her overseas, I insisted on sending her money and gifts because the Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa salam) said gift giving draws hearts together. And I did. When my husband got there, I called her cell cause my husband gave it to me for emergencies until he gets his own cell phone. She answered. She was very brief but polite like I stated earlier. Honestly, I was hurt. Very hurt. I wanted a relationship with her, but I guess she is not allowing it or is not ready yet. I am giving up trying and maybe it will get better when she comes to the States inshaAllah (God Willing) What were your own views and feelings on polygany before your marriage and how have they changed since? At the beginning, I swore by Allah I would never be involved in Polygyny. All the sisters and my wali knew how firm I was about that. It happened, I don’t know why. Now, I can say that my view is a little different. If your husband is fair and everyone involved fears Allah and won’t abuse the other one regardless of the jealousy that might occur, then it is perfect. This funny thoughts come to me sometimes, (smile), that he is a real man for being able to deal with 2 women, this makes me have a lot of respect for him. There is plenty of benefits in it. I mean, if there is a reason for it, like if a wife can’t have kids, or if a sister is old and don’t have a husband or if a sister went through some kind of crisis and needs to have a husband etc…, then I am for it. I am against it only when brothers do it for the wrong reason. When they don’t do it fisabilllah (for the sake of Allah) When they do it only just because this sister looks good (but doesn’t have Taqwa (God-consciousness)). What are your views on the roles and duties of a husband with multiple wives? Simple- Equal financial treatment, equal time. The husband must also be able to fulfill the sexual desire of all his wives, not ever compare them (that would be an immense mistake) and not allow disrespect between them. The heart is a different issue. You cant help who you love more even though most women wish to win first place. Again without wanting to ask too personal of a question, I understand your co-wife is in another country at the moment and your husband divides his time as best he can. What steps does your husband take to remain fair between his wives and keep things peaceful? How do you think this will change when you are living close by? He is trying his best. He visits her for 3 months out of the year and she is in the process of moving to the States inshaAllah. He contacts her pretty often, not that he tells me, but women are smart. And also, because he contacts me 26 days out of 30 when he visits her. He would love to have total equal time, but for now, its just not possible financially. I really don’t care about how it will be when she moves here, the most important thing is that she makes it here so she can get as much time as I am getting. I know my husband will not make us feel any different inshAllah, he is just a good man, a true blessing from Allah. More jealousy may occur between me and her, but I know we will not harm each other. I am not too worried about that. What do you think are the biggest issues facing polygynous families and how has your family dealt with these issues? Each family has their own issue. I am not sure on how I would describe that. But for his family, they love me and the ones who know her loves me and her. They are truly special and caring people. Even though his mom is not 100% in love with polygyny due to her own experience, but it is coming along fine. His dad loves me. On my family side, they are really all Christians, and Allah knows Best about my mom. She took her Shahada (declaration of faith) but does not practice. My brother’s fiancee, I told. She had no problem with it. My brother overheard a Muslim brother say that to my husband on our walimah (wedding party), he really doesn’t care either. My mother was just digging to find out what was wrong with him since in her opinion all men are dogs, asked me the question once, and of course I could not lie. I switched the subject, went to the bathroom and came back to face the same question again. After her speech, entitled, “she knew something was wrong with him and that he could not be that nice”, I explained to her that I was the one keeping it a secret and that my husband actually wanted to tell them and he really did. Now, she loves him and they probably call and text each other more then once a day even with her limitation in English. So, it worked out fine. You mentioned jealousy to me earlier, did you know that Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) was jealous of Khadija (Allah be please with her) because she was always the most beloved to The Prophet (peace be upon him) even after her death? Jealousy is normal I am sure, a tool of shaitan (the devil) perhaps. How do you cope with it and keep it from affecting you? (Laughing out loud). I remind myself that I have no reason to feel jealous. He gives me no reason. It just drives me crazy to think sometimes that he doesn’t love me more then her just cause my mind tells me so. I want him to love me more and out of the blue one day, he was laughing and telling me he realized all women want to be loved more after coming from visiting her. This made me think that she is feeling the same way. Its pretty funny at times. But, what counts, he is a very nice person. He really loves my boys. He blushes when I tell him the boys say they love him. He loved them before I even imagined we were going to get married. He listens to me and cares when I am hurt. I never had that before. Right now, I am 6 months pregnant with his first child and he is very supportive and loving. He calls me precious and he once said that I am his diamond and he has to take care of it. What else do I need? Hearing that, and being treated like that, he can even love her more if he would like (smile). MashaAllah that is wonderful! How do you think you would react to your husband taking a 3rd wife? What lessons from being a second wife do you think you could apply to that if ever faced with it? I would NOT be happy if he takes another wife in the future. I think he should be satisfied cause I am having his kids since she couldn’t yet, so he should be satisfied. (Laughing out loud). Wrong, but that is how I feel and he laughs every time I say it by replying that I am doing the same thing his 1st wife was doing but he is not thinking about that, and Allah knows Best. But if it happens, I will respect her as I want to be respected by my co-wife and I will be patient inshaAllah but I would not encourage him at all in this matter. There is so much I’m sure our readers would like to know, I hope I’ve asked at least some of the right questions. What advice do you have for women who may be entering into a polygynous marriage? Do not enter a marriage thinking that you are going to take over. Its wrong. Respect your co-wife regardless how jealous you get. Be very sensitive towards her/them. Treat your husband well and most importantly, be Patient. Verily, Allah (SWT) loves the patient and we all want Allah to love us. Any advice for first wives and husbands considering a second wife? Depend on the situation. If you have a good marriage and he is fair, be patient and don’t assume that he doesn’t love you. There may be a reason fisabillillah (for the sake of Allah) he is doing it. Talk to him about how you feel. Remember this world is temporary and Allah tests us all the time. Be patient. Your husband may even love you more then you can imagine. Finally, What would you like our readers to know about your situation and others like it? What misconceptions are out there that you’d like to address? I want everyone to know that I have never been happier with a man before. He is truly a blessing from Allah and I can’t believe I found it in polygyny. There are a lot of misconceptions, it depends on the individuals involved. If you are doing the right thing, then it helps erase misconceptions. Mistresses don’t get equal time, mistresses are not known to everyone. Islam stops all these things that put a woman down. The Prophet’s (saw) wives were treated all equally even though he loved Aisha (ra) more. And if we claim we follow Islam, we must try our best to follow his Sunnah. Stop the deceitful things. muslimahoasis

A Deep Yearning to Perform Hajj (Part 1) By Shaykh Mawlānā Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullāh Hajj is one of the fundamental pillars of Islām. Rasūlullāh sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam has said: Hajj is no insignificant ritual. Rather, it is a great worship which encompasses both physical struggle and sacrifice of wealth. It is an ‘ibādah of expressing love for the Creator and showing a personification of the submission of Ibrāhīm ‘alayhis salām. Islām is founded on five (pillars): bearing witness that there is no deity except Allāh and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allāh, establishing salāh, paying zakāh, performing hajj and fasting in the month of Ramadān. (Al-Bukhārī) It is for this reason severe warnings have been stated for that person who neglects this great act of worship without any valid reason. The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said: He who possesses enough provisions which will suffice for him to reach the House of Allāh, and he does not perform hajj, then there is no care whether he dies as a Jew or a Christian, and that is because Allāh ta‘ālā has mentioned in His Book: ‘As a right of Allāh, it is obligatory on the people to perform hajj of the House – on everyone who has the ability to manage his way to it. And if one disbelieves, then Allāh is independent of all the worlds.’ (At-Tirmidhī) Imām Al-Qurtubī rahimahullāh and Imām Ibn Kathīr rahimahullāh have narrated in their works of tafsīr that ‘Umar radhiyallāhu ‘anhu would say: I have resolved to send a few men to the villages and look for those people who possess the means to perform hajj but do not do so, and impose jizyah upon them, because Allāh says, ‘…And if one disbelieves, then Allāh is independent of all the worlds.’ After scrutinising the verse quoted above and all the warnings narrated in the ahādīth regarding those upon whom hajj is fard but fail to perform it, the majority of ‘Ulamā have concluded that such people are near to disbelief. Such is the gravity of the non-performance of hajj. However, leaving aside the warnings, hajj and everything related to it is so blessed and virtuous that every Mu’min should harbour a deep-felt yearning and desire to perform it year after year. Let us take a look at some of the virtues associated to this great worship. 1. Travelling: • The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Whoever sets out intending the Sacred House and mounts his camel, his camel will not raise a hoof and place it down except that Allāh will write a good deed for him, forgive a sin of his, and raise his rank due to it, until he reaches the Ka‘bah…” (Al-Bayhaqī) • Ibn ‘Umar radhiyallāhu ‘anhu narrates a lengthy hadīth in which he states that he was sitting with the Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam in the Masjid of Minā, when a person from the Ansār (Ansārī) and a person from [the tribe of] Thaqīf (Thaqafī) came into his presence. Upon greeting with salām, they said, “O Messenger of Allāh! We have come to ask you…” upon which the Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “If you so wish I can inform you of what you have come to ask me, and if you wish I can remain silent and you can go ahead and ask.” They both said, “O Messenger of Allāh! Tell us.” Then the Thaqafī turned to the Ansārī and said, “Ask.” So he said, “O Messenger of Allāh! Tell us.” So he said, “You have come to me to ask me regarding your leaving home intending the Sacred House, and the reward that lies in it for you…” He remarked, “By the being who has sent you with the truth, this indeed is what I came to ask you regarding!” The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “When you leave your house intending the Sacred House, your camel does not raise a hoof and place it down except that Allāh will write a good deed for you and forgives a sin of yours…” (Al-Bazzār) Note: the remainder of this hadīth will be mentioned under different headings later on. 2. The Haram: • Allāh ta‘ālā mentions in the Qur’ān, “Whoever enters it is secure…” Some commentators have mentioned that this means he will be saved from the Fire. (Ibn Kathīr) 3. Makkah Al-Mukarramah: • Allāh ta‘ālā has taken an oath on this blessed city twice in the Qur’ān, saying, “I swear by this city.” (90:1) and, “And [i swear] by this peaceful city.” (95:3) • Allāh ta‘ālā also mentions the du‘ā of Ibrāhīm ‘alayhis salām, saying, “(Recall) when Ibrāhīm said, ‘My Lord, make this city peaceful…’” (14:35) • ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Adiyy ibn Hamrā’ narrates that he witnessed Rasūlullāh sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam having stopped at [a place called] Al-Hazwarah, [addressing Makkah] saying, “By Allāh! You are the best of the Land of Allāh, and the most beloved Land of Allāh to Him, and if I had not been driven out of you, I would never have left you.” (At-Tirmidhī) • On the occasion of the liberation of Makkah, the Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam [addressing the people] praised Allāh ta‘ālā and then said, “Verily, Allāh has sanctified Makkah; the people have not sanctified it. No human who believes in Allāh and in the Last Day is permitted to shed blood in it, nor uproot a tree…” (Al-Bukhārī, Muslim) 4. Al-Masjid Al-Harām: • Allāh ta‘ālā says in the Qur’ān, “Surely [We will punish] those who disbelieve and prevent [people] from the way of Allāh and from Al-Masjid-Al-Harām (the Sacred Mosque), which We have made for all men, where residents and visitors are all equal. And whoever intends therein to commit deviation with injustice, We will make him taste a painful punishment.” (22:25) • The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “One salāh in this masjid of mine (Al-Masjid An-Nabawī) is better than a thousand prayers in any other, except for Al-Masjid Al-Harām.” (Al-Bukhārī, Muslim) • The actual virtue of performing salāh in Al-Masjid Al-Haram is understood from another hadīth to be 100,000 times more than any other. (Ibn Mājah) 5. The Ka‘bah: • Allāh ta‘ālā says in the Qur’ān: “Allāh has made the Ka‘bah, the Sacred House, a source of stability for people…” (5:97) • The sanctity of the Ka‘bah is so great that it affects even those who are miles away from it, so much so that the Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “When you go to relieve yourselves, then do not face the qiblah, nor turn your backs to it, rather, turn to the left or the right.” (Al-Bukhārī, Muslim) • The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Allāh sends down 120 mercies each day and night on this House [of Allāh], 60 for those doing tawāf around it, 40 for those performing salāh, and 20 for those looking at it.”(At-Tabrānī) • The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “The doors of the heavens are opened, and du‘ā is accepted in four places… [one of which is] when seeing the Ka‘bah.” (Al-Bayhaqī) Note: this is not exclusive to the first sight of the Ka‘bah. 6. Al-Hajar Al-Aswad: • The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said regarding the Black Stone, “By Allāh! Allāh will raise it on the Day of Qiyāmah with it having two eyes with which it will see, and a tongue with which it will speak; it will testify for those who kissed it properly [i.e. with Īmān and hope of reward].” (At-Tirmidhī) • Ibn Hishām rahimahullāh once asked ‘Atā ibn Abī Rabāh regarding Ar-Rukn Al-Yamānī, whilst he was performing tawāf. ‘Atā rahimahullāh replied, “Abū Hurayrah radhiyallāhu ‘anhu narrated to me that the Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, ‘Seventy angels have been appointed to it. Whoever says, “O Allāh! I ask of You forgiveness and safety in the world and the Hereafter, Our Lord, give us good in this world and good in the Hereafter, and save us from the punishment of Fire” they say ‘Āmīn’ (O Allāh accept [this prayer]).’” When he [ibn Hishām rahimahullāh] reached Al-Hajar Al-Aswad, he said, “O Abū Muhammad (‘Atā ibn Abī Rabāh rahimahullāh), what have you come to know regarding this corner of Aswad?” ‘Atā replied, “Abū Hurayrah radhiyallāhu ‘anhu narrated to me that he heard the Messenger of Allāh sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam saying, “Whoever engages with it, engages with the hand of mercy.” (Ibn Mājah) 7. Tawāf: • Further on, in the previous hadīth narrated by Imām Ibn Mājah rahimahullāh, Ibn Hishām rahimahullāh then said, “O Abū Muhammad! What about tawāf?” ‘Atā rahimahullāh replied, “Abū Hurayrah radhiyallāhu ‘anhu narrated to me that he heard the Messenger of Allāh sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam saying, ‘Whoever circumambulates the Ka‘bah seven times, and does not talk, except saying, ‘Subhānallāh, Alhamdulillāh, Allāhu Akbar, and Lā hawla walā quwwata illā billāh’, ten of his sins are forgiven, ten rewards are written for him, and his rank is raised ten times, and whoever performs tāwāf and talks, whilst saying the same, paddles in the Mercy [of Allāh] like a person who paddles in water.’” (Ibn Mājah) • The Prophet sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Whoever circumambulates this House seven complete times, it is as if he has freed a slave.” He also says, “And I also heard him sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam say, ‘He (the circumambulator) does not take a step except that Allāh forgives a sin of his and writes a good deed for him.’” (At-Tirmidhī) © Riyādul Jannah (2013) ​

Wa'alaykumus salaam sis...yes, difficult as it would be, these stories teach us it can be done. I think keeping in mind the commands of Allah ta'ala and His Rasool sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam in every aspect i.e. that polygyny is permissible and it has many advantages as well as for both the men and the wives to keep good akhlaaq as well as fulfill rights over each other would help

Looking at a Prospective Bride Question Why has Islam allowed a person to meet and look at a prospective bride? Answer بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Islam has allowed and encouraged a person to look at a prospective bride to ensure a person does not regret making a decision that has a life lasting impact. The Prophet ﷺ once said to Mughirah Ibn Shu’bah (May Allah be pleased with him, “Look at her, for this is more likely to create lasting affection between you.” (Tirmidhi, 1087; Ibn Majah, 1938) The Prophet ﷺ once said to a companion, “Go, and look at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansar”. (Muslim, 2553) The Prophet ﷺ himself looked at a prospective bride. (Bukhari, 4833) Imam Nawawi (May Allah have mercy on him) mentions that it is Mustahab (desirable) to look at the prospective bride. This is the view according to all four schools of thought. He further mentions that the permissibility is confined to looking at the face and the palm of the hands according to the majority of scholars as this will enable a person to ascertain the beauty and physique of a person. This is the reason why Islam has allowed a person to look at a prospective bride. Some Hanafi scholars have also given permission to look at the feet (Raddul Muhtar, 6: 369) whilst many Hanbali scholars have permitted looking at other parts of the body that are generally exposed, for example, the hands. (al-Mughni, 7: 454; Fathul Bari, 4833, al-Insaf, 8:15) Many people misunderstand the rationale for the permission to look at a prospective bride. They think it is an opportunity to find out more about each other and learn about each other’s character and traits. This is not the reason why Islam has permitted this. Mufti Saeed Palanpuri Sahib explains in Rahmatullahil Wasi’ah (5: 38) that there are two aspects of a person: firstly, the physical appearance and beauty (Soorat), and secondly, the character and lifestyle of a person (Seerat). The rationale for the permission to look at a prospective bride is to ascertain the former and not the latter, and the permission has been granted due to necessity. The purpose of the meeting is not to ascertain the character and lifestyle of the prospective bride; even several encounters may not achieve this. The most effective method of ascertaining this is through her peers, neighbours, relatives and other associates. It is also worth noting that the permission to meet a prospective bride is restricted to one meeting in the presence of her guardian. It has become common in our society for prospective couples to meet alone and socialise. This is not permissible. The great Hanbali scholar, ‘Allamah Ibn Qudamah explicitly mentions that it is not permissible for him to be alone with her, as this is prohibited. The Shari’ah has only permitted looking. He mentions that another reason for the prohibition is that spending time alone could lead to sin. The Prophet ﷺ has said, “A man is not alone with a woman except the third of them is Satan”. (Tirmidhi, 2165) Furthermore, it is not permissible for a man to touch a woman with or without lust. (Raddul Muhtar, 6: 367) Allah knows best Yusuf Shabbir, Blackburn, UK 24 May 2015 Approved by: Mufti Shabbir Ahmed Sahib Source

For the sake of our beloveds… Sometimes we make certain choices in life based merely on the fact that ‘if my father/mother/child/wife/beloved was alive, he/she would do the same’ or we do it “for old time’s sake”. This stems from the love that we possess for each other. When one loves someone dearly, then that love extends to everything that is connected to the beloved, especially in their absence. A mother will cherish the clothes of her child more after the child’s demise. A Connection with the deceased Strangely, when one does this, one actually feels a sense of satisfaction that cannot be explained neither substituted by anything. One actually feels a closeness to the deceased. To keep up ‘old ties’ is a concept that is deep rooted in Islam. In one Hadith Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, ‘To maintain (old) relationships is certainly a part of Iman.’ (Mustadrak – Hakim, vol.1 pg.16). It was the noble habit of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) that when he used to slaughter a sheep for his household, he would send portions of it to the friends of his first and most cherished wife, Sayyidatuna Khadijah (radiyallahu’anha). Sayyiduna Anas (radiyallahu’anhu) reported that when Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would receive any gift, he would say, ‘Take it to so and so. She was a friend of Khadijah (radiyallahu’anha), she used to love Khadijah (radiyallahu’anha).’ Sayyidatuna Aishah (radiyallahu’anha) says that, ‘He (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would do this so often that I would sometimes tell him, ‘As if there was none other than Khadijah (radiyallahu’anha) in the world?’ At this Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would affectionately go on extolling her praises.’ (Sahih Bukhari, hadith: 6004 & Sahih Muslim, hadith: 2435) An amazing incident Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (radiyallahu’anhuma) was once on his way to Makkah for ‘Umrah. On the way, he met a shabbily dressed, disheveled Bedouin who was on foot. Upon seeing him, the noble Companion of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) alighted his conveyance, went up to the beouin and inquired, ‘Are you the son of so and so?’ ‘Yes’ replied the Bedouin. Hearing this, Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (radiyallahu’anhuma) greeted him with full zeal, then he removed his turban and gave it to the delighted Bedouin. After doing so, Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (radiyallahu’anhu) thought to himself that this was not enough. So, he then offered him the comfortable conveyance that he had chosen for his journey. The Bedouin delightfully accepted it and continued on his way. At this the colleagues of Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Umar (radiyallahu’anhu) expressed their amazement by saying: ‘This person is a bedouin, who would have been pleased even if you offered him a simple gift.’ To this he replied, “Indeed his father was a friend of my father and I have certainly heard our beloved Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) say, ‘Verily from the greatest forms of loyalty to ones parents after their demise, is for one to keep up ties with their friends.’ (Sahih Muslim, hadith: 6460) In this incident, Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (radiyallahu’anhuma) -who was renown for his strict adherence to the Sunnah-, had actually extended his kindness to the son of his father’s friend and not just the friend himself. Satisfaction Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) had on numerous occasions exhorted the Ummah towards adopting this sublime practice that brings satisfaction to all; the one who does so, the one to whom it is done, as well as the one on whose behalf it is done. According to several Hadiths, the news of the deeds of the living are conveyed to their deceased relatives and friends. They even rejoice at the good that their relative or friend may have done. (See full details in Ahwalul Qubur- Ibn Rajab, pg.150-157 and Sharhus-Sudur, pg.342-344) Their rights after demise A man once enquired from Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) as to what rights do his parents have on him after their demise. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) replied: To make dua for them. To seek forgiveness on their behalf. To execute their orders and bequests. To maintain ties with those relatives of yours who are linked to you via them. To pay respect to their surviving friends. (Sunan Abi Dawud, hadith: 5099 & Sahih Ibn Hibban; Al Ihsan, hadith: 498) According to the narration of Bayhaqi, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) then said, ‘They (the parents) will be made aware of whatever he (the child) does on their behalf’. (Dalilul Falihin). Let’s do this! Lets take out the time, to firstly, enlist the names of the relatives and friends of our deceased close family. Then we could gradually tick off the list by visiting, or making cordial contact with them. This will -insha Allah- be a source of satisfaction for multiple people, especially our deceased family members. Let’s do it, for the sake of our beloveds! By us practicing this noble sunnah, we would be leading our children by example. When we are deceased, they too would do the same, insha Allahu Ta’ala. Cation: It is extremely important to ensure that no unlawful intermingling takes place while practicing the above sunnah. al-miftah

Women Of Complete Imaan & Taqwa This is a story related by Shaykh Zulfiqar Naqshbandi in one of his talks during his recent visit to London. The subject was Imaan (Faith) and how once a person attains complete Imaan, be it a man or a woman, they remain human but their actions become like those of the Angels. There once lived a young man with a beautiful wife whom he loved. He had a good business and provided well for his family and they lived quite happily. He did however have to travel to a far off place due to his business and would therefore be separated from his wife for three to four months at a time and he would miss his wife and family. On one such trip he decided that since he came to this place once a year and spent so many months, he may as well have a home and a wife here. He purchased a house, furnished it and after consulting some people he found a good woman who was in need of support and who was willing to look after him when he was with her and live by herself when he was away. The Nikah took place and not wishing to hurt his first wife’s feelings he decided not to inform her of the situation. The time arrived for him to return home and he said his goodbyes to his new wife. A woman often has a sixth sense regarding her husband and upon his return home the first wife immediately felt that things were not as they were before. She was a wise woman and decided not to ask her husband any questions in case it created tension between them. After some months he once again prepared for his business trip. She let him go and awaited his return anxiously. Upon his return she became convinced that something was not quite right however once again, she decided to remain quiet. On his next trip away she called an elderly woman whom she knew and trusted and paid her to visit the town where her husband conducted his business and try to find out how he spent his time there. The old woman did as she was told and upon her return she related the news about his second wife and home. The first wife was indeed very hurt but accepted that it was his right and decided not to question him upon his arrival. So life continued for a while with her husband travelling between the two towns. On one of his trips home he was suddenly taken ill and died soon thereafter. His inheritance was divided and his wife was given four sacks full of coins. She looked at them and thought to herself that they did not all belong to her as her husband had a second wife and half of it was her amaanat (trust). She mused to herself that no one was aware of the second Nikah and if she kept all the wealth who was there to ask any questions? She was a pious lady and her piety led her to once more call upon the elderly lady to whom she gave two bags and instructed her to travel to the city where her co-wife lived to inform her of her husband’s sudden death and hand over her share of the inheritance. The elderly lady visited the second wife with the sad news of the death of her husband. On hearing the news the widow cried and appeared inconsolable. When the tears eventually stopped the old lady handed over the two sacks of coins informing her that the first wife had sent it as it was her share of the inheritance. This woman looked at the gold and then handed back the bags saying she had no right to them. On being asked why she explained that just before her husband’s departure they had fought with each other and she had been given a divorce and though no one knew about it and she could have kept the coins, she knew that Allah subhaanahu wata’ala was well aware! This then is a story of how Women of Taqwa behave, how they sacrifice their personal feelings and desires for that which is commanded by their Lord.

wa'alaykumus salaam i remember that story...told by shaykh Zulfiqar Naqshbandi. It was in a separate post...

وَّاخْعَلْنِيْ Khaa should be a jeem sis

Second Wife ..I thought that no one could love her husband the way I loved mine, but she taught me the true meaning of unconditional love... Second wife! The words reverberated through my brain. Why? Am I not good enough? Never! I will never accept a second wife! If you want a second wife you can go out and get one as long as you know that I will not be here when you come back! Those were my words to my husband a few years ago when he mentioned to me that he is intending to marry again a second time. It was a woman recently divorced, 4 children. 'She is having a hard time', he said, she didn't know where the next meal is coming from or how to provide adequately for her children. "Where is their father?" I asked, "Can't he take care of his own kids? Why do you, a strange man have to carry another man's burden? Surely there are other ways that you can help her out financially without having to MARRY her! I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. Sharing my husband with another woman. Sharing his love, his smiles, his jokes with a woman other than myself. I could not fathom him holding her close and whispering loving words in her ears. It was unacceptable. An outrage. After all I have been to him. Wife, mother, doctor, housekeeper. I raised 3 of his beautiful children. How can he insult me by marrying another woman as if I am not good enough. Not pretty enough. Not young enough or just plain not ENOUGH! NO! I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. If she walks in, I walk out! Plain and simple. If he is willing to risk our marriage, our life, our children for another woman, then he must go ahead. I will not stand for it! It all seems so many years ago now. When I thought that life would last forever and that nothing will ever change. But it did.... My husband did not get married to a second wife. After all my warnings and threats of leaving he abandoned the idea. I don't know what happened to the women and children. My guess is that they moved on to another town. He never mentioned a second wife again and I was happy with that. I managed to hang on to my husband but I didn't know that our time was running out. His last words to me were that he had a headache and is going to lie down till Esha. He never read Esha namaaz that night, because he never woke up. I was devastated by his sudden death. The man whom I have spent my life with, snatched away from me in a second. I mourned him for a long, long time. Neglecting my children and the business. Soon all went to waste and we started losing everything one by one. First the car then the shop, then the house. We moved in with my brother and his family. My 3 children and I crowded the house and my sister in law soon became annoyed by our presence. I needed to get out, to work and find a place of our own instead of living off the leftovers of others. But I had no skill. When my husband was alive we lived comfortably. I had no need to go out and work or or equip myself with a skill. Life was very difficult for me and my children and I wasn't young anymore. I missed him everyday with every beat of my heart. How could ones condition change so drastically? One day my brother told me that someone he knew is looking for a wife. He was a good person, good akhlaq and very pious. Perfect for me, but he wants me to be his second wife. It's the second time in my life that the word second wife was mentioned to me. But how different the circumstances. He came to my brothers house to see me. There was an immediate connection between us. I liked him and I liked everything about him. He told me that his first wife knows that he is intending to marry again but that she is obviously not supportive of the idea and that he doesn't know what her reaction will be when he tells her that he had found someone. His answer he said, will be dependent on her acceptance of Polygamy. I started reading Istikhara that night. I so desperately wanted it to work out. I remembered so many years ago when the life of another woman depended on my decision and what my decision was. I felt contrite, I felt that because I did not give another woman a chance, a space in my life, that Allah Ta'ala will punish me this time around. I repented, not once in my life did I think my action worthy of repentance because I had done nothing wrong. I only protected what was mine. Now that I am on the receiving end, I realized how wrong I was in denying another woman this PRIVILEGE of a husband. I prayed that she will accept me. He phoned me a few days later telling me that his wife is having a hard time accepting it but that she is willing to meet me. I was nervous the day of the meeting. I prayed a lot the day before and asked Allah Ta'ala to help me. When I met her, she was a person, a woman like me . A woman who loves her husband and fears losing him. She took my hand and with tears in her eyes said: " This is very hard for me, but I hope that we can be sisters" her words broke my heart. All I needed in these dark days was a hand reaching out to me and embracing me, giving me hope and the will to carry on. His wife was to me, the woman that I could not be and I will be forever grateful for that. I thought that no one could love her husband the way I loved mine, but she taught me the true meaning of unconditional love. You never know a person's situation until you are in it. Judge by what is right according to Qu'ran and you will see how Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will send double fold.

1 Tayammum literally means "Intending", but in Islamic Shariah the words refers to intending or looking to find soil to wipe one's hands and face so as to be prepared for Salah and other acts requiring Wudhu or Ghusl يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا تَقۡرَبُواْ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ وَأَنتُمۡ سُكَـٰرَىٰ حَتَّىٰ تَعۡلَمُواْ مَا تَقُولُونَ وَلَا جُنُبًا إِلَّا عَابِرِى سَبِيلٍ حَتَّىٰ تَغۡتَسِلُواْ‌ۚ وَإِن كُنتُم مَّرۡضَىٰٓ أَوۡ عَلَىٰ سَفَرٍ أَوۡ جَآءَ أَحَدٌ۬ مِّنكُم مِّنَ ٱلۡغَآٮِٕطِ أَوۡ لَـٰمَسۡتُمُ ٱلنِّسَآءَ فَلَمۡ تَجِدُواْ مَآءً۬ فَتَيَمَّمُواْ صَعِيدً۬ا طَيِّبً۬ا فَٱمۡسَحُواْ بِوُجُوهِكُمۡ وَأَيۡدِيكُمۡ‌ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَفُوًّا غَفُورًا [4:43]O you who believe! Do not go near Salāh when you are intoxicated, until you know what you say, nor in a state of major impurity'. save when you are traversing a way until you take a bath. If you are sick, or in travel, or if one of you has come after relieving himself, or you have had contact with women, and you find no water, go for some clean dust and wipe your faces and hands (with it). Surely, Allah is Most-Pardoning, Most-Forgiving. أبي أمامة - رضي اللّه عنه - أن رسول اللّه صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: " جعلت الأرض كلها لي، ولأمتي مسجداً وطهوراً، فأيما أدركت رجلاً من أمتي الصلاة، فعنده طَهوره ". رواه أحمد. Abu Umamah (RA) related that the Messenger of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, "All of the earth has been made for me and my nation a pure place of prayer. Whenever a person from my nation wants to pray, he has something with which to purify himself, that is, the earth." [Ahmed] 2 Tayammum is a special blessing of Allah (SWT) on the Ummah of the Messenger of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam). فعن جابر - رضي اللّه عنه - أن رسول اللّه صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: " أُعطيت خمساً، لم يعطهن أحد قبلي؛ نُصرت بالرُّعب مسيرةَ شهر، وجعلت لي الأرض مسجداً وطهوراً، فأيما رجل من أمتي أدركته الصلاة، فليصلِّ، وأُحلت لي الغنائم، ولم تحل لأحد قبلي، وأعطيت الشفاعة، وكان النبي يبعث في قومه خاصة، وبعثت إلى الناس عامَّة ". رواه الشيخان. Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah (RA): Allah's Apostle (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, "I have been given five things which were not given to any amongst the Prophets before me. These are: a) Allah made me victorious by awe (by His frightening my enemies) for a distance of one month's journey. b) The earth has been made for me (and for my followers) a place for praying and a thing to perform Tayammum. Therefore my followers can pray wherever the time of a prayer is due. c) The booty has been made Halal (lawful) for me (and was not made so for anyone else). d) Every Prophet used to be sent to his nation exclusively but I have been sent 1o all mankind. e) I have been given the right of intercession (on the Day of Resurrection.) [Agreed upon] 3 In the Madhab of Imam Abu Haneefa (RA), Tayammum is permitted in the following circumstances: a When water is not available (*) b When one lacks the means to get the water c When there is a danger lurking between him/her and the water e.g. a beast or human d When one is a prisoner under harsh conditions e When the quantity of water is only sufficient to meet the basic necessities e.g. drinking, cooking, orwater for the animal f When one is ill or feels that using water will aggravate the illness g When one is in a state of Janabah (sexual impurity) and fears that one will die from cold or become ill if Ghusl is made with water (provided that one has no means to heat the water or use public bathrooms). Tayammum is a substitute for Wudhu or Ghusl. روت عائشة - رضي اللّه عنها - قالت: خرجنا مع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم في بعض أسفاره، حتى إذا كنا بالبيدَاء، انقطع عقد لي، فأقام النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم على التماسه، وأقام الناس معه، وليسوا على ماء، وليس معهم ماء، فأتى الناس إلى أبي بكر - رضي اللّه عنه - فقالوا: ألا ترى إلى ما صنعت عائشة ؟ فجاء أبو بكر، والنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم على فخذي قد نام، فعاتبني، وقال ما شاء اللّه أن يقول، وجعل يطعن بيده خاصرتي، فما يمنعني من التحرك، إلا مكان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم على فخذي، فنام، حتى أصبح على غير ماء، فأنزل اللّه تعالى آية التيمم: " فَتَيَمَّمُوا " [المائدة: 6]. قال أسيد بن الحُضَير: ما هي أول بركتكم يا آل أبي بكر. فقالت: فبعثنا البعير الذي كنت عليه، فوجدنا العقد تحته. رواه الجماعة، إلا الترمذي Said 'Aishah, "We went out with the Messenger of Allah on one of his journeys until we reached Baida'. At this place, one of my bracelets broke and fell somewhere. The Messenger of Allah and others began to look for it. There was no water at that place, nor did anyone have any water with him. The people went to Abu Bakr and said, "Do you see what your daughter has done?" Abu Bakr came to me, while the Prophet was sleeping on my thigh. He blamed me and said to me whatever Allah willed him to say. He also poked me in my side. I could not move, for the Prophet, upon whom be peace, was sleeping on my lap. He slept until the morning without any water available. Then, Allah revealed the verse of tayammum. As-Sayyid ibn Huzhain said, 'That was not the first blessing from the family of Abu Bakr.' The camel that I was on got up and we found the necklace underneath it." [Narrated by the group except Tirmidhi] عمران بن حُصين - رضي اللّه عنه - قال: كنا مع رسول اللّه صلى الله عليه وسلم في سفر، فصلى بالناس؛ فإذا هو برجل معتزل، فقال: "ما منعك أن تصلي ؟". قال: أصابتني جنابة، ولا ماء. قال: "عليك بالصعيد؛ فإنه يكفيك".رواه الشيخان، Narrated 'Imran bin Husain Al-Khuza'i (RA): Allah's Apostle (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) saw a person sitting aloof and not praying with the people. He (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) asked him, "O so and so! What prevented you from offering the prayer with the people?" He replied, "O Allah's Apostle (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam)! I am Junub and there is no water." The Prophet said, "Perform Tayammum with clean earth and that will be sufficient for you." [Agreed upon] جابر - رضي اللّه عنه - قال: خرجنا في سفر، فأصاب رجلاً منا حجر، فشجه في رأسه، ثم احتلم، فسأل أصحابه: هل تجدون لي رخصة في التيمم ؟ فقالوا: ما نجد لك رخصة، وأنت تقدر على الماء. فاغتسل، فمات، فلما قدمنا على رسول اللّه صلى الله عليه وسلم، أخبر بذلك، فقال: " قتلوه، قتلهم اللّه، ألا سألوا إذا لم يعلموا ! فإنما شفاء العِِيِّ السؤال ، إنما كان يكفيه أن يتيمم، ويعصر، أو يعصب على جرحه خرقة، ثم يمسح عليه، ويغسل سائر جسده ". رواه أبو داود، وابن ماجه، والدارقطني، وصححه ابن السّكن Jabir (RA) said: We set out on a journey. One of our people was hurt by a stone which injured his head. He then had a wet dream. He asked his companions, "Do you find concession for me to do Tayammum?" They said, "We do not find any concession for you while you can use water." He did Ghusl and died because of it. We then went to Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) and the incident was reported to him. He (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, "They killed him, may Allah (SWT) kill them. Why did they not ask about what they do not know? The cure for ignorance is to ask. It would have been enough for him to do Tayammum and wrap his wound, then to wipe it and wash the rest of the body." [Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah, DarQutni and Ibn Sakin who authenticated it] عمرو بن العاص _ رضي اللّه عنه _ أنه لما بعث في غزوة ذات السلاسل، قال: احتلمت في ليلة شديدة البرودة، فأشفقت إن اغتسلت أن أهلك، ثم صليت بأصحابي صلاة الصبح، فلما قدمنا على رسول اللّه صلى الله عليه وسلم، ذكروا ذلك له، فقال: " يا عمرو، صليت بأصحابك، وأنت جنب؟ ". فقلت: ذكرت قول اللّه، عزّ وجل: " وَلاَ تَقْتُلُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُمْ رَحِيماً " [النساء: 39]. فتيممت، ثم صليت فضحك رسول اللّه، ولم يقل شيئاً. رواه أحمد، وأبو داود، والحاكم، والدَّارقطني، وابن حبان، وعلقه البخاري Amr Ibn Al-Aas (RA) said: I had a wet dream on a cold night in the battle of Dhat Al-Salasil. I was afraid if I did Ghusl I would die, I therefore did Tayammum and led the Fajr Salah with my companions. They mentioned this to the Messenger of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) and He (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, "Amr, you led your companions in Salah while in the state of Janabah?" I informed him of the cause which impeded me from Ghusl and I said, "I heard Allah (SWT) say, "Do not kill yourself. Indeed, Allah has been Very-Merciful to you (4:29)." the Messenger of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) just smiled and did not say anything. [Ahmed, Abu Dawud, Hakim, Daraqutni, Ibn Hibban and Bukhari in Mu'allaq form] قال الإمام أحمد - رضي اللّه عنه: عدة من الصحابة تيمموا، وحبسوا الماء؛ لشفاههم. Imam Ahmed (RA) says, "Many amongst the Sahaba (RA) did Tayammum and kept the water for drinking and there is no disagreement amongst scholars in this matter". [Al-Mughni] وعن علي - رضي اللّه عنه - أنه قال، في الرجل يكون في السفر، فتصيبه الجنابة، ومعه قليل من الماء، يخاف أن يعطش: يتيمم، ولا يغتسل. رواه الدارقطني 'Ali (RA) said that a man who is travelling and becomes unclean because of sex or a wet dream can perform tayammum if he fears he will go thirsty: "He should perform tayammum and not ghusl." [Darqutni] If the water is available but there is danger to one's life or property in getting to it or there is a danger that one will be separated from his companions, or that one will be ambushed by enemy while getting the water, or there is nothing to draw the water from the well then all of these conditions will make Tayammum permissible and there is no disagreement amongst scholars in this matter. [Al-Mughni] Note: Scholars in the Hanafi Madhab have stipulated that the distance of water not being available is roughly 1 mile. 4 Person considering Tayammum does not have to search for water if he/she does not think in all likelihood that there is no water in the vicinity. However if he/she does think that there is a likelihood that there water may be found then Tayammum will not be permissible (on account on lack of availability of water) until he/she has searched for it. Note: Scholars in the Hanafi Madhab have stipulated that the distance of water not being available is roughly 1 mile. 5 If a traveller forgets that he/she had water in their belongings and does Tayammum and performs Salah then according to Imam Abu Haneefa (RA) and Imam Muhammad (RA) he/she does not need to repeat the Salah but according to Imam Abu Yusuf (RA) Salah needs to be repeated. Note: Scholars in the Hanafi Madhab have stipulated that the distance of water not being available is roughly 1 mile. 6 Tayammum is only permitted with clean earth (*). يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓاْ إِذَا قُمۡتُمۡ إِلَى ٱلصَّلَوٰةِ فَٱغۡسِلُواْ وُجُوهَكُمۡ وَأَيۡدِيَكُمۡ إِلَى ٱلۡمَرَافِقِ وَٱمۡسَحُواْ بِرُءُوسِكُمۡ وَأَرۡجُلَڪُمۡ إِلَى ٱلۡكَعۡبَيۡنِ‌ۚ وَإِن كُنتُمۡ جُنُبً۬ا فَٱطَّهَّرُواْ‌ۚ وَإِن كُنتُم مَّرۡضَىٰٓ أَوۡ عَلَىٰ سَفَرٍ أَوۡ جَآءَ أَحَدٌ۬ مِّنكُم مِّنَ ٱلۡغَآٮِٕطِ أَوۡ لَـٰمَسۡتُمُ ٱلنِّسَآءَ فَلَمۡ تَجِدُواْ مَآءً۬ فَتَيَمَّمُواْ صَعِيدً۬ا طَيِّبً۬ا فَٱمۡسَحُواْ بِوُجُوهِڪُمۡ وَأَيۡدِيكُم مِّنۡهُ‌ۚ مَا يُرِيدُ ٱللَّهُ لِيَجۡعَلَ عَلَيۡڪُم مِّنۡ حَرَجٍ۬ وَلَـٰكِن يُرِيدُ لِيُطَهِّرَكُمۡ وَلِيُتِمَّ نِعۡمَتَهُ ۥ عَلَيۡكُمۡ لَعَلَّڪُمۡ تَشۡكُرُونَ [5:6] O you who believe, when you rise for Salāh, (prayer) wash your faces and your hands up to the elbows, and make MasH (wiping by hands) of your heads and (wash) your feet up to the ankles. If you are in a state of major impurity, cleanse yourselves well (by taking bath). If you are sick, or on a journey, or if one of you has come after relieving himself, or you have had sexual contact with women, and you find no water, then, go for some clean dust and wipe your faces and hands with it. Allah does not like to impose a problem on you; He, rather likes to cleanse you and to complete His favour upon you, so that you may be grateful. Sa'id in this verse is understood to mean whatever covers the earth's surface and is of the same genus as dust, stone etc. Note: Imam Abu Haneefa (RA) and Imam Muhammad (RA) allow Tayammum with dust (Turab), sand, pebbles, lime, Kohl antimony, arsenic and stone while Imam Abu Yusuf (RA) allows it with dust, earth and sand. A list of items on which Tayammum is permissible in the Hanafi Madhab is given in Ta'leemul-Haq as: a Clean Earth b Sand c Stone d Limestone e Baked Earthen Pots (unglazed) f Walls of mud, stone or brick g Clay h All items with think dust on them 7 Bismillah should be recited and then Intention must be made before Tayammum e.g. "I am making Tayammum for Wudhu (or Ghusl)." There is no disagreement amongst scholars on this matter. حدثنا ‏ ‏الحميدي عبد الله بن الزبير ‏ ‏قال حدثنا ‏ ‏سفيان ‏ ‏قال حدثنا ‏ ‏يحيى بن سعيد الأنصاري ‏ ‏قال أخبرني ‏ ‏محمد بن إبراهيم التيمي ‏ ‏أنه سمع ‏ ‏علقمة بن وقاص الليثي ‏ ‏يقول سمعت ‏ ‏عمر بن الخطاب ‏ ‏رضي الله عنه ‏ ‏على المنبر ‏‏قال سمعت رسول الله ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏يقول ‏ ‏إنما الأعمال ‏ ‏بالنيات ‏ ‏وإنما لكل امرئ ما نوى فمن كانت هجرته إلى دنيا ‏ ‏يصيبها ‏ ‏أو إلى امرأة ينكحها فهجرته إلى ما هاجر إليه Narrated 'Umar bin Al-Khattab (RA): Allah's Apostle (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, "The reward of deeds depends upon the intention and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended. So whoever emigrated for Allah and His Apostle, then his emigration was for Allah and His Apostle. And whoever emigrated for worldly benefits or for a woman to marry, his emigration was for what he emigrated for." [bukhari] Note: Intention doesn't need to be uttered verbally or loudly, it is an action of the heart. 8 After intention strike both hands on the clean earth, dust the hands, then blow the excess dirt off the hands and then rub the hands on the face completely (without leaving any space). Then strike both hands on the clean earth, dust the hands, then blow the excess dirt off the hands and then rub the right hand completely over the left hand including the elbow and then rub the left hand completely over the right hand including the elbow. عمار - رضي اللّه عنه - قال: أجنبت، فلم أصب الماء، فتمعّكتُ في الصعيد، وصليت، فذكرت ذلك للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم، فقال: " إنما كان يكفيك هكذا ". وضرب النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بكفيه الأرض، ونفخ فيهما، ثم مسح بهما وجهه وكفيه. رواه الشيخان. وفي لفظ آخر: " إنما كان يكفيك أن تضرب بكفيك في التراب، ثم تنفخ فيهما، ثم تمسح بهما وجهك وكفيك إلى الرسغين ". رواه الدارقطني. 'Ammar related. He said, "We became sexually impure and had no water, so we rolled in the dirt and prayed. This was mentioned to the Prophet and he said, 'This would have been enough for you,' and he struck the earth with his hands, blew in them and then wiped his face and hands with them." [Agreed upon]. In another text he states, "It would have been enough for you to strike the ground with your hands, blow into them, then wipe your face and hands up to the elbows." [Darqutni] 9 Nullifiers of Tayammum are divided into two categories: a General: Everything which nullifies Wudhu will nullify Tayammum b Specific: Accessibility of water with ability to avail it while or before Salah will nullify Tayammum; Person in this case must do Wudhu or if during Salah break Salah and do Wudhu and then resume Salah ‏حدثنا ‏ ‏أبو الوليد ‏ ‏حدثنا ‏ ‏سلم بن زرير ‏ ‏سمعت ‏ ‏أبا رجاء ‏ ‏قال حدثنا ‏ ‏عمران بن حصين ‏‏أنهم كانوا مع النبي ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏في مسير ‏ ‏فأدلجوا ‏ ‏ليلتهم حتى إذا كان وجه الصبح ‏ ‏عرسوا ‏ ‏فغلبتهم أعينهم حتى ارتفعت الشمس فكان أول من استيقظ من منامه ‏ ‏أبو بكر ‏ ‏وكان لا يوقظ رسول الله ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏من منامه حتى يستيقظ فاستيقظ ‏ ‏عمر ‏ ‏فقعد ‏ ‏أبو بكر ‏ ‏عند رأسه فجعل يكبر ويرفع صوته حتى استيقظ النبي ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏فنزل وصلى بنا الغداة فاعتزل رجل من القوم لم يصل معنا فلما انصرف قال يا فلان ما يمنعك أن تصلي معنا قال أصابتني جنابة فأمره أن يتيمم بالصعيد ثم صلى وجعلني رسول الله ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏في ركوب بين يديه وقد عطشنا عطشا شديدا فبينما نحن نسير إذا نحن بامرأة ‏ ‏سادلة ‏ ‏رجليها بين ‏ ‏مزادتين ‏ ‏فقلنا لها أين الماء فقالت إنه لا ماء فقلنا كم بين أهلك وبين الماء قالت يوم وليلة فقلنا انطلقي إلى رسول الله ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏قالت وما رسول الله فلم نملكها من أمرها حتى استقبلنا بها النبي ‏ ‏صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ ‏فحدثته بمثل الذي حدثتنا غير أنها حدثته أنها ‏ ‏مؤتمة ‏ ‏فأمر ‏ ‏بمزادتيها ‏ ‏فمسح في ‏ ‏العزلاوين ‏ ‏فشربنا عطاشا أربعين رجلا حتى روينا فملأنا كل قربة معنا وإداوة غير أنه لم نسق بعيرا وهي تكاد ‏ ‏تنض ‏ ‏من الملء ثم قال هاتوا ما عندكم فجمع لها من الكسر والتمر حتى أتت أهلها قالت لقيت أسحر الناس أو هو نبي كما زعموا فهدى الله ذاك ‏ ‏الصرم ‏ ‏بتلك المرأة فأسلمت وأسلموا Narrated 'Imran (RA): Once we were travelling with the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) and we carried on travelling till the last part of the night and then we (halted at a place) and slept (deeply). There is nothing sweeter than sleep for a traveller in the last part of the night. So it was only the heat of the sun that made us to wake up and the first to wake up was so and so, then so and so and then so and so (the narrator 'Auf said that Abu Raja' had told him their names but he had forgotten them) and the fourth person to wake up was 'Umar bin Al-Khattab (RA). And whenever the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) used to sleep, nobody would wake up him till he himself used to get up as we did not know what was happening (being revealed) to him in his sleep. So, 'Umar (RA) got up and saw the condition of the people, and he was a strict man, so he said, "Allahu Akbar" and raised his voice with Takbir, and kept on saying loudly till the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) got up because of it. When he got up, the people informed him about what had happened to them. He (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, "There is no harm (or it will not be harmful). Depart!" So they departed from that place, and after covering some distance the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) stopped and asked for some water to perform the ablution. So he performed the ablution and the call for the prayer was pronounced and he led the people in prayer. After he (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) finished from the prayer, he saw a man sitting aloof who had not prayed with the people. He (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) asked, "O so and so! What has prevented you from praying with us?" He replied, "I am Junub and there is no water. " The Prophet s(Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) aid, "Perform Tayammum with (clean) earth and that is sufficient for you." Then the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) proceeded on and the people complained to him of thirst. Thereupon he got down and called a person (the narrator 'Auf added that Abu Raja' had named him but he had forgotten) and 'Ali (RA) , and ordered them to go and bring water. So they went in search of water and met a woman who was sitting on her camel between two bags of water. They asked, "Where can we find water?" She replied, "I was there (at the place of water) this hour yesterday and my people are behind me." They requested her to accompany them. She asked, "Where?" They said, "To Allah's Apostle (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam)." She said, "Do you mean the man who is called the Sabi, (with a new religion)?" They replied, "Yes, the same person. So come along." They brought her to the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) and narrated the whole story. He (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, "Help her to dismount." The Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) asked for a pot, then he (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) opened the mouths of the bags and poured some water into the pot. Then he (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) closed the big openings of the bags and opened the small ones and the people were called upon to drink and water their animals. So they all watered their animals and they (too) all quenched their thirst and also gave water to others and last of all the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) gave a pot full of water to the person who was Junub and told him to pour it over his body. The woman was standing and watching all that which they were doing with her water. By Allah, when her water bags were returned the looked like as if they were more full (of water) than they had been before (Miracle of Allah's Apostle) Then the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) ordered us to collect something for her; so dates, flour and Sawiq were collected which amounted to a good meal that was put in a piece of cloth. She was helped to ride on her camel and that cloth full of food-stuff was also placed in front of her and then the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said to her, "We have not taken your water but Allah has given water to us." She returned home late. Her relatives asked her: "O so and so what has delayed you?" She said, "A strange thing! Two men met me and took me to the man who is called the Sabi' and he did such and such a thing. By Allah, he is either the greatest magician between this and this (gesturing with her index and middle fingers raising them towards the sky indicating the heaven and the earth) or he is Allah's true Apostle." Afterwards the Muslims used to attack the pagans around her abode but never touched her village. One day she said to her people, "I think that these people leave you purposely. Have you got any inclination to Islam?" They obeyed her and all of them embraced Islam. Abu 'Abdultah said: The word Saba'a means "The one who has deserted his old religion and embraced a new religion." Abul 'Ailya said, "The Sabis are a sect of people of the Scripture who recite the Book of Psalms.". [bukhari] فعن أبي سعيد الخدري - رضي اللّه عنه - قال: خرج رجلان في سفر، فحضرت الصلاة، وليس معهما ماء، فتيمما صعيداً طيباً، فصليا، ثم وجد الماء في الوقت، فأعاد أحدهما الوضوء والصلاة، ولم يعد الآخر، ثم أتيا رسول اللّه صلى الله عليه وسلم، فذكرا له ذلك، فقال للذي لم يعد: " أصبتَ السنة، وأجزأتك صلاتك " . وقال للذي توضأ، وأعاد: "لك الأجر مرتين ". رواه أبو داود، والنسائي. Abu Said Al-Khudri (RA) said that two men went out for a journey. The time for Salah came and as they had no water, they did Tayammum with pure earth and did Salah, then they found water during the time for the same Salah and one of them repeated the Salah while the other didn't. When they joined the Messenger of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) , they mentioned this to him and he (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said to the one who did not repeat his Salah, "You have acted according to Sunnah and your Salah is sufficient for you" and he (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said to the other, "You will get double the reward". [Abu Dawud] Compulsory actions of Tayammum (Faraidh): 1 Making intention 2 Rub both hands on the face after striking them on the earth 3 Rub both hands on the arms up to the elbow after striking them on the earth Permissible items for Tayammum: 1Clean (Taahir) earth 2 Sand 3 Stone 4 Limestone 5 Baked earthen pots (unglazed) 6 Walls of mud, stone or brick 7 Clay 8 All items with thick layer of dust on them Impermissible items for Tayammum: 1 Wood 2 Metal 3 Glass 4 Food items 5 All items which burn and turn into ash, rot or melt central-mosque

“Rābi‘ah Baṣriyah rahmatullahi alayh used to say that people think that a friend of Allāh ta’ala is one who can fly in the sky, walk on water or perform other supernatural feats. Birds fly in the air, fish swim in the water, yet that does not make them of an exceptional status or beloved to Allāh ta’ala! In reality, one attains the special friendship of Allāh ta’ala by practising Dīn in its entirety.” Courtesy of In Shaykh's Company: a blog maintained by the students of Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullah www.shaykh.org

Replying to the Salaam Q: Is it obligatory on us to reply if anyone says to us Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Baraakatuhu? What will be the extent of that reply, do we have to say Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Baraakatuhu or we can just say Wa Alaikum Assalam? Whenever I receives your reply through email, there is always written Salaam in the beginning, do I have to reply to that Salaam as well? A: 1. Both are permissible. However through saying "Assalamu Alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh" one will receive more reward. 2. Yes, it is waajib to reply to the Salaam even if the Salaam is was sent via a letter, sms or email. And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best. ويسلم على الواحد بلفظ الجماعة وكذا الرد ولا يزيد الراد على وبركاته ورد السلام وتشميت العاطس على الفور ويجب رد جواب كتاب التحية كرد السلام قال الشامي : قوله ( ولا يزيد الراد على وبركاته ) قال في التاترخانية والأفضل للمسلم أن يقول السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته والمجيب كذلك يرد ولا ينبغي أن يزاد على البركات شيء اه ويأتي بواو العطف في وعليكم وإن حذفها أجزأه وإن قال المبتدىء سلام عليكم أو السلام عليكم فللمجيب أن يقول في الصورتين سلام عليكم أو السلام عليكم ولكن الألف واللام أولى اه ... قوله ( ويجب رد جواب كتاب التحية ) لأن الكتاب من الغائب بمنزلة الخطاب من الحاضر مجتبى والناس عنه غافلون ط (رد المحتار 6/ 414-415) Answered by: Mufti Zakaria Makada Checked & Approved: Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

“Food for the Soul” Subject: SELFLESSNESS Allah, The Most Exalted, says: "Say, 'Indeed, my Lord extends provision for whom He wills of His servants and restricts (it) for him. But whatever thing you spend (give) – He will compensate it; and He is the best of Providers." (Qur’an Saba', 34:39) The Noble Messenger of Allah, Muhammad (peace be upon him) is reported to have said: "No one of you is a believer until he loves for his brother that which he loves for himself." (Hadith –Bukhari & Muslim) Note: Indeed the Last and Final Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was a Mercy to All of Humanity and he practically demonstrated selflessness. Sacrifice usually is accompanied by difficulty and our sincerity is put to test. It’s easy to sacrifice and give to those who give back. The real test is to give to those who can give you nothing in return. When you sacrifice something precious, you're not really losing it, you're just passing it on to someone else and hoping for a reward from your Creator. www.eislam.co.za

Abuse in Marriage Q. Many men abuse their wives sometimes physically and sometimes emotionally. What is the status of physical and emotional abuse within marriages in Islam? A. It is important to note that marriage is a relationship that is based on mutual love and respect. A couple should honour and respect the rights of each other and should never abuse each other physically or emotionally. In doing so, the marriage will become unstable and would be devoid of blessings. In Islam, physical and emotional abuse is totally condemned. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said, “A Muslim is he, who others are saved from the abuse of his tongue (emotional) and hand (physical).” (Musnad Ahmad) Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam also said, “A person whose neighbour is not safe from his evil, will never enter Jannah.” (Musnad Ahmad) May Allah protect our brothers and sisters from domestic abuse and may He instil love and respect in our marriages. Ameen. And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Ismaeel Bassa Confirmation: Mufti Ebrahim Desai Fatwa Department Jamiatul Ulama (KZN)

Preparing for Death By Khalid Baig "Suppose you learn today that you have only one more day to live; you'll die tomorrow. How will you spend your last day?" This interview question was posed long before the age of mass media. The interviewer approached prominent scholars and people known for their virtuous lives with the idea that he would compile their answers in a book. Such a book would provide the readers with inspiration for the most important virtues. But the most inspiring response came from the person who did not provide a wish list of virtuous deeds. He was the great muhaddith Abdur Rahman ibn abi Na'um and he replied: "There is nothing that I could change in my daily schedule learning that it is my last day. I already spend everyday in my life as if it is going to be my last." Death is the most certain aspect of life. According to the latest statistics, 6178 people die in the world every hour. These are people of all ages, dying of all causes. Some of these deaths will make headlines. The great majority will die quietly. Yet everyone will enter his grave the same way. Alone. At the time appointed by God. Science and technology can neither prevent nor predict death. It is solely in the hands of the Creator. "O mankind! If you are in doubt concerning the Resurrection, then lo! We have created you from dust, then from a drop of seed, then from a clot, then from a little lump of flesh shapely and shapeless, that We may make it clear for you. And We cause what We will to remain in the wombs for an appointed time, and afterward We bring you forth as infants, then give you growth that you attain full strength. And among you there is he who dies young, and among you there is he who is brought back to the most abject time of life, so that after knowledge he knows naught!"[ Qur'aan - Al-Haj 22:5] We see it happening all the time. Yet it is amazing how we feel that it won't happen to us. At least not anytime soon. We bury our own friends and relatives but think that we'll live forever. Our attitudes about death defy all logic. In a way we recognize it and even plan for it. We take out life insurance policies. We may do estate planning. Businesses and governments have contingency plans to carry out their operations in case of sudden loss of their leaders. But this is recognition of death as an end point of this life. Where we fail is in recognizing it as the beginning of another life that will never end and where we'll reap what we sow here. A central teaching of Islam is that it is our recognition of and preparation for that eternity that must separate those who are smart from those who are not. As the Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: "Truly smart is the person who controlled his desires and prepared for life after death." There is a moving story about Bahlool, who, in his innocence seems to be on the opposite end of the scale of worldly-smartness. Khalifa Haroon ur Rashid had given him access to his court probably because his naiveté was a source of entertainment to him. Once the Khalifa gave him a walking stick saying, "It is meant for the most foolish person in the world. If you find a person more deserving of it than yourself, pass it on." Several years later Haroon ur Rashid fell seriously ill and no medical treatment seemed to work. Bahlool visited him and inquired about his condition. The conversation went something like this: Haroon: "No treatment is working. I see my final journey ahead of me." Bahlool: "Where are you going?" Haroon: "I am going to the Other World." Bahlool: "How long will you stay there? When will you come back?" Haroon: "No one ever comes back from that world." Bahlool: "Then you must have made especial preparations for this journey. Did you send an advance group to take care of you once you arrive? Haroon: "Bahlool, you have to go there alone. And no, I did not make any preparations." Bahlool: "Ameer-ul-Momineen! You used to send troops to make extensive preparations for you for even short trips of only a few days. Now you are going to a place where you'll live forever but you have made no preparations! I think I have found the person more deserving of the stick that you had given me some years ago." This story speaks to all of us. We may not be kings but we do plan our trips of even a few days very carefully. How about preparing for the journey into eternity? How about making the concern for the Hereafter the cornerstone of our lives here? Actually, that concern can change our lives here as well. This world is an abode of deception. Here we are not punished the moment we commit a sin. This fools us into thinking that we can get away with it. Remembering death is the antidote for that deception. A person who remembers that he will have to stand before his Creator and be accountable for his actions simply cannot defy God! In the story of Pharaoh, we learn that when he saw death approaching he declared belief in the God of Moses. Before that he had been fooled by his apparent power. His repentance came too late but it did show how his arrogance and intransigence evaporated when faced with the certainty of death. It is amazing how a lot of our own "confusions", frivolous arguments, excuses (for why we cannot do this or avoid that), or plane laziness can melt away when we visualize ourselves in our grave! Death settles lot of arguments. Its remembrance can do that too. Before it is too late. He was indeed a very wise person who spent everyday of his life as if it was going to be his last day. But that certainly should be the goal for all of us!

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Inheritance for an adopted child Q. My wife and I have tried to have children for many years but unfortunately, we could not have children. Now, Allah has blessed us with a wonderful child that we have adopted. We would like to know about the inheritance of this wonderful adopted child of ours. Would she inherit for us after our demise? A. An adopted child does not inherit from the adoptive parents automatically. However, the adoptive parents are allowed to make a Wasiyyah (bequest) up to one-third of their estate (after discharging funeral expenses and debts) to the adopted child if they wish to do so. And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Ismaeel Bassa Confirmation: Mufti Ebrahim Desai Fatwa Department Jamiatul Ulama (KZN)

ETIQUETTE OF VISITING THE SICK One of the many beauties of Islam is that it is a way of life that corresponds with a human being's natural disposotion in every aspect of life. Amongst these things that a human naturally feels is mercy and compassion for the sick. Hence, Islam has placed a great deal of emphasis on bringing these qualities into our lives. The Holy Prophet stated in one hadith: “Show compassion to those on earth, the One in the heavens will show mercy upon you.” Visiting the sick is from amongst those responsibilities and duties that a Muslim must fulfil. Imam Bukhari has transmitted a hadith in his Sahih from Sayyidina Abu Huraira that our beloved Prophet said: “The rights of one Muslim over another Muslim are six.” Someone asked, “What are they?” The Holy Prophet replied, “When you meet him you greet him with salaam (peace), when he invites you, you accept his invitation, when he consults you in a matter, you give him sincere advice. When he sneezes and praises Allah, you ask Allah to have mercy on him. When he is sick, you visit him and when he passes away you accompany him i.e. you join in his janazah (funeral).” These actions create love of bonding within the Muslims. Furthermore, the Muslims in essence are like one body as mentioned in an authentic narration of Rasulullah . If one part of the body hurts the entire body hurts. Our consolation will not take away the sickness from our Muslim brother or sister, but it may lift his spirits and make him happy. Just as our Master Rasulaullah has guided us on how to conduct ourselves in every sphere of our lives, he has also guided us regarding the method of visiting the sick. While fulfilling this revered act, the vistor should keep some things in mind so as to discharge his obligation in a successful manner. The visitor should call before hand to find out if it would be appropriate to visit at a specific time or to find out when it would be best to visit. The visit should be brief so that the ill person does not become burdened by the presence of the visitor. Sheikh Abdul Fatah Ghudda the renowned scholar of Syria writes in his book, ‘Islamic Manners’: “The length of the visit should not be longer than the time between the two sermons of Friday. In this respect, it was said that the visit should be long enough to convey salaams and wishes, to ask the sick how they are doing, to pray for their recovery and to leave immediately after bidding them farewell.” Also, one should try to avoid asking the details of the illness or discomfort the sick by talking about the illness. He should pray for the sick, for verily the rewards for such an act are great. Imam Bukhari and Muslim have transmitted a hadith from our beloved Mother Hadhrat Aisha(radhiallahu anha) who said: “If someone fell sick, the Prophet would pass his beloved hand over the sick person saying the following prayer: ‘O Allah! Lord of mankind, take away the suffering, bring about recovery, only your cure takes away illnesses’.” An effort should be made to inform the pious as to the state of the person sick. This is because the du’as of the pious never go in vain. The whole experience of visiting the sick is full of reflection if carried out according to the sunnah. Furthermore, only through illness can we truly appreciate good health from Allah. Sickness is a means of cleansing from Allah as well as a test from Allah. We pray to Allah to cure the sick amongst us and give us the ability to practice this sunnah of the Holy Prophet Muhammad . Inter-Islam

Ghusl & Salaah after Nifas Q: When should I start praying after baby birth? A: When your nifaas (post natal bleeding) terminates, you should commence performing Salaah. The maximum period of nifaas is forty days. If the bleeding stops before forty days, you should make ghusl and commence performing Salaah. And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best. ( والنفاس لغة ) ولادة المرأة وشرعا ( دم ) فلو لم تره هل تكون نفساء المعتمد نعم ( ويخرج ) من رحم فلو ولدته من سرتها إن سال الدم من الرحم فنفساء وإلا فذات جرح وإن ثبت له أحكام الولد ( عقب ولد ) أو أكثره ولو متقطعا عضوا عضوا لا أقله فتتوضأ إن قدرت أو تتيمم وتومىء بصلاة ولا تؤخر فما عذر الصحيح القادر وحكمه كالحيض في كل شيء إلا في سبعة ذكرتها في الخزائن وشرحي للملتقى منها أنه ( لا حد لأقله ) إلا إذا احتيج إليه لعدة كقوله إذا ولدت فأنت طالق فقالت مضت عدتي فقدره الإمام بخمسة وعشرين مع ثلاث حيض والثاني بأحد عشر والثالث بساعة ( وأكثره أربعون يوما ) كذا رواه الترمذي وغيره ولأن أكثره أربعة أمثال أكثر الحيض ( والزائد ) على أكثره ( استحاضة ) لو مبتدأة أما المعتادة فترد لعاداتها وكذا الحيض فإن انقطع على أكثرهما أو قبله فالكل نفاس وكذا حيض إن وليه طهر تام وإلا فعادتها وهي تثبت وتنتقل بمرة به يفتى وتمامه فيما علقناه على الملتقى (الدر المختار 1 /300) أقل النفاس ما يوجد ولو ساعة وعليه الفتوى وأكثره أربعون كذا في السراجية وإن زاد الدم على الأربعين فالأربعون في المبتدأة والمعروفة في المعتادة نفاس هكذا في المحيط ... الأحكام التي يشترك فيها الحيض والنفاس ثمانية منها أن يسقط عن الحائض والنفساء الصلاة فلا تقضي هكذا في الكفاية (الفتاوى الهندية 1 /37-38) Answered by: Mufti Zakaria Makada Checked & Approved: Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

Question and Answer: Q. As a muslim male, the hair of my eyebrows reached a stage where they were virtually connecting (also known as a monobrow). I wanted to find out if it is permissible for me to remove the hair between my eyebrows? (Question published as received) A. Yes, it is permissible to remove the excess hair between the two eyebrows (unibrow /monobrow). (Shaami 6/373) And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Ismaeel Bassa Confirmation: Mufti Ebrahim Desai Fatwa Department Jamiatul Ulama (KZN)